my brother in law never gives me the time of day…he never talks to me, other than a formal hello and thats it…ive heard he bad mouths me behind my back…it hurts me
a bit of background…my brother in law and sister have been dating since my teens (back since 1991) i never got on with my sister, we had a rocky relationship…we did not get on and fought through our teens up til i was 23 (then she moved out of the family home)
anyway when i was fighting with my sister (back in 1993) i had the poor judgement to “have a go verbally” at my brother in law…i had a go at him…it was just verbal…i was out of order…anyway he holds it against me despite apologising to him in a nice way when i was 20 (in the year 1997)…anyway i apologised to him.
anyway, he still ignores me…he never gives me the time of day…and i hear he bad mouths me alot behind my back…also he has heard some crazy schizophrenic stuff that i have done over the years and he has been very judgemental of me, never talks to me, and im 44 now and hes 48…
anyway about a year ago i wrote a lovely letter to him to try to make amends…i apologised and tried to be as nice as possible, i tried to explain things…but to this day he still ignores me, blatantly so…
I feel as though I could almost ‘see you, and raise you one’ but alas I’m not entirely sure… also have my pic up now so saying this much is orobably not wise.
Still my heart goes out to you I recall similar posts from you going back at least a year maybe two years…
thanks for the input @anon64158233 …its frustrating to have to put up with my brother in law…i cant get him out of my life …i have to put up with him …but it is damn bloody awkward…what do you think i should do
There’s probably little you can do. Try not to let it ever come to fisticuffs, and I say that because you probably have more resentment now after your note didn’t work… maybe I’m reaching though.
My BIL didnt communicate what he wanted. He had aims to move a family of three to the opposite coast where he was raised.
But he waited and played his hand after the child was born.
Do you understand my reservations at this juncture?
To boot I said I was starving in the kitchen and he didn’t say anything. It was just the two of us. Which brings me to ask you: do you think it’s related to money/family money?
My sister told me once she doesn’t believe in long term disability. This was before My dx. I’m not sure how she feels about it now. It would be interesting to know if she’d rather pay more into social security for people like me or see her brother living on the street.
