I’m going to go live with my sister at the end of the summer. I can’t wait. She’s going to help me get into shape. I have 80 pounds to lose. We’re going to go on daily walks and dance around to our favorite music at night. She’s going to buy me a fit bit type thing and I’m going to do the 10,000 step thing with her. We’re going to do a healthy eating plan together, we’re still working on exactly what that’s going to look like. But it’s been fun just talking and planning everything with her. We’re both really excited to be back together. We’re even going to go explore nature like we did when we were kids. I can’t wait. Now if I can only just get through the next couple of months of getting my husband and son off on their own way and selling everything I own without having a nervous breakdown it will be a miracle.
Divorce is so hard to go through, I’m glad you have your sister’s support at this difficult moment. I’m sure you will enjoy the time living with your sister.
Oh thank you @green5 have you been through a divorce?
Not really,but I had a long separation with my husband due to the conflict of social value and personality.
Oh I’m so sorry, well I’m glad you worked it out and didn’t get divorced. Staying married is hard work.
It was but not any more, because I changed my social value naturally because of an recent expansion of my reading into some modern western philosophers’ books which help me understand better my husband’s political belief. I’m now no longer a traditional Chinese. So most of the conflicts between my husband and me are gone.
What was the book? I’m curious. It’s good that you keep good relationships with your husband. 
Mostly are Erich Fromm’s books on Love and Freedom, such as The Art of Loving , Escape From Freedom.
This is great news! I’m so glad you get to live with your sister! Just hang in there until then. Do a countdown so you can see how close you’re getting to going.
Thank you @LilyoftheValley for sharing my excitement. I don’t know the exact date yet but when I do I will definitely be doing the countdown. Good idea. I love countdowns.
I’m glad your sister is there for you. When I went through my divorce I was alone and had no support and I freaked out and crashed and went to the hospital. It’s been several years but my brother came back into my life and now things are going better. Good luck on your move
Thank you @Raven I’m sorry you were alone. I’m glad things are better for you now though. Yes, my sister is very important to me, I don’t know what I would do without her.
Hugs. You’ll be there soon. In the meantime, you’ll be able to handle tying up the loose ends you need to take care of. What still needs to be done?
Hi @Ninjastar (((hugs))) Everything needs to be done. I can’t start on anything until June 10th. Then I can start getting stuff done, I’ll feel better then. Until then it’s just waiting and worrying. Have you ever noticed that excitement and anxiety feel about the same in the pit of your stomach? It’s weird, but good to know.
The anxious/excited combo is such a confusing feeling! It’s so good and bad together.
Some things I do to calm down are:
Put an ice pack on the back of your head. This will cool down your brain and reduce activity in your limbic system, where emotions happen.
Do a task with simple, clear steps. I like baking. I follow the recipe, and it’s easy enough that I don’t get frustrated, but it requires enough concentration that I don’t have room to think about other things. Cleaning also helps.
Engage your five senses. This will remind you what is real and what isn’t. Listen to soothing music. Smell something pleasant, like an essential oil. Suck on a hard candy. Look at pictures of things you enjoy. Feel something with an interesting texture, like a piece of Velcro or a stress ball.
Try to levitate something with your mind. You obviously won’t succeed, but it gets you to focus all of your attention on a single point outside your body, instead of on your thoughts. I like to use this on airplanes or in public places, because it doesn’t require you to move at all. It looks like you’re just daydreaming to observers.
Its great to have that support! I didn’t have that support when I had a divorce. My family loved my ex husband and didn’t talk with me for 2 years. My brother and sister in law were the only ones who stood beside me. I lost many friends too. My family and friends are hyper religious. My family since then apologized because they realized how they tore me apart. My kids always stood by me.
Divorce is very difficult, I have personal experience with it.
I’m glad you have your sister @Leaf.
You will get through this.
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