So the day of graduation is upon us. I’ve been waiting for this day for awhile. We have relatives coming from out of town to be at my son’s ceremony. Then my daughter’s baby shower. Then I just need to be up and around for visiting and whatever activities come up. They leave on Sunday early I presume since they have a long drive home.
Then comes the hard part. I will be telling my husband that I’m leaving him and my family that I’m moving 8 hours away. Of course I won’t be moving for a couple months, but they need time to get used to the idea. I’m so nervous. I feel like everyone is going to be mad at me and not understand that I need to make myself a priority right now. I guess I would be mad if I was them too. Oh well it doesn’t change anything, let them be mad.
Once everyone knows, I still have the difficult task of selling everything I own and when it gets closer I need to find safe transportation to my new city. I have some people in mind but I haven’t been able to ask them yet because of the secrecy. But soon all the cards will be on the table and I can get some stuff planned out. Maybe then I’ll be less anxious and more excited.
Well I’m not happy. I haven’t been for awhile. I fell out of love with my husband and I’m not doing well in my current living situation. I’m not taking care of myself in general so I’m going to go live with my sister and we have plans to make a healthy living a focus for us to we can both live long and healthy lives together. I can’t wait.
I’ve stayed with my husband longer than I wanted to because he had no income and really no way to support himself up until now. He just got his social security retirement and now has income of his own. So now I feel free to make the separation finally. And the rest of my family will hopefully come visit me.
@Leaf
There are so much joy and sadness in this post! There are celebration and accomplishment, anticipation and amazement, loss and sorrow. There are new beginnings and sad endings. Oh, I ache for you and your family.
@Leaf sounds like you care about your husband to make sure he has income before you leave. Totally understand the pain of falling out of love. Sounds like your rock solid with a good and stable plan
It’s good to take care of yourself. And I think very highly of you for waiting until your husband could take care if himself. That was quite a sacrifice. It says a lot about your character. Good luck with your new lease on life!
There is a way to fall back in love with your husband… you need oxytocin. It’s a nasal spray. You spray it and then cuddle and spend quality time with hubby. Your feelings will return stronger than ever.
They give it to new mothers to help bond with the baby and for milk supply
Hope it all goes smoothly @Leaf. It’s hard to make these decisions in life but sometimes relationships just don’t work for you and you need to look after yourself.
You sound like you’ve some solid plans and more power to you. Hope it all goes well and just keep focused! Do what you need to do and hope it all works out well for you. Stuff the haters. Do what you need to do!
Thank you @rogueone for the words of encouragement. I needed to hear that. You’re a great guy, so supportive. I will try to focus, just kick it over into gear and plow through until I get to my destination. Yup, that’s what I’m going to do, sigh I’m trying.
and good wishes to you.