Is it not funny how a person may think of me in a negative light in some respect and it can stress me out
but if some certain other person may think of me in that same negative respect, I would not be as stressed out? (if at all)
Why is it like that ?
Today I am feeling a bit non alert so please excuse me if the answers are obvious.
I am just happy to discuss this though to an extent
Why is it like that??
I think our perceptions really affect how we respond to others. If someone reminds you of someone you had a bad experience with, it’ll affect how you respond to them. Likewise, someone who reminds you of good people or good things will be perceived in a better light and you’ll care more about what they think
I become self conscious around so many people, do you?
Try not to stress about it. We all care what some people think, like our parents and friends.
Take things easy. 
‘Self-Conscious’
This is my main problem in life.
I think staff noticed when I went giving out CVs in shops. As I felt nervous in most of the shops that I entered.
It doesn’t give a good first impression.
Yes, I’m very self conscious, even around friends
yea it is just disappointing that I have to distance myself from people whom I would actually not want to distance myself from, were it not for the self-consciousness.
and then it ends up feeling like a war because of the boundaries that I set but…I don’t like war 
But I cannot see how else to deal with it.
It is just disappointing …can you relate Monte?
I am sorry to hear that Pianogal 
Life is not a piece of cake, that is for sure
I think I see what you’re saying.
I’ve had to distance myself from people in my life too.
Mainly because they were criminals, or liars.
I think it’s perfectly healthy to set boundaries.
I temporarily disappoint myself
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myself…temporarily
Thanks for responding to me Monte.
Hope the rest of your day serves you well 
You welcome my little snickerdoodle. 
It’s almost midnight here. 
It is just like some people seem to trigger me 
I feel like a premonition, whether real or imagined it feels real nvt.
and it therefore puts me in an emotional flight or freeze mode
I can understand that. It’s hard to decipher between paranoia and street smarts sometimes.
Do you have any mental health clubs you can join?
I will hope to join one next year
That ought to help.
take care friend and stay safe
Good for you! I want to join my local one too one day.
that sounds like a great idea hope you meet some decent people
I have to distance myself from people whom I would actually not want to distance myself from, were it not for the self-consciousness.
Do you think that they would judge you? I mean, if they care about you they are going to make allowances for your condition.
Do you stay in touch with them by phone?
I mean I know this is common and all, but still, that doesn’t take away from the fact that it is very ANNOYING. My self-consciousness affects my behaviour somewhat and as a result those people are going to form corresponding opinions. I think the self consciousness reasons are difficult to explain but it has to do with fear of deeply hurting myself…does it make sense ?
I am fb friends yea with some for example.
Yes. When you quit drinking you have to distance yourself from your old drinking buddies. It’s awkward and unpleasant. How do you tell a friend you have to stay away from them.