I made the decision to move out of my apartment and into a group home when I hit a bottom Friday morning. I feel any change will be good, even if I have trouble with my roommates. I have not talked to anyone in person since my last hospitalization. But, it may not be possible, it’s cheaper to live here, for the government, and I’ve survived ten years so far, ten years of masochist torture! What do you think? Maybe I could just find ways of socializing when things reopen?
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Socializing is good. It takes you out of your headspace and forces you to think in more practical terms if you want to be successful at it.
I play cricket at 50. I volunteer. It makes me wake up every week with something to do and I do some really cool stuff. That is important to me because I feel I am contributing even though I’m on a disability pension.
You thought about attending a group where it interests you? There’s games/sports/activities where you can do something you like with other like minded people. It’s always nice to have a hobby!
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I think you should stay where you are.
you don’t want staff directing you around.
Everything is still basically closed down here. I feel for those who need the center I went to more than I.
I forget where you are. I’m in Iowa/Illinois part, U.S., but the Iowa governor has lifted most restrictions, harsher in Illinois.
but restaurants, and other places lack workers.
There are still restrictions in MD.
I feel like an infant with no skin.
Indepenance is still cool. I’d hang tight till it opens up then find something that interests you and try and make some connections. I’m a member of a political party here. I pay my membership every year but go to bed too early for attending meetings. STill. I have that opportunity if the factors align…
I need to read if I can’t sleep due to mania. Isn’t that what lonely people do and groups watch movies and TV? It took countless tries to learn to read!
Reading is good but hard. Before dx I read like 3 books a week. Now I am doing well and reading a book a month. I still read every night though. At least 1 chapter no matter what.
It’s hard but it’s important to find things you like doing. I like nerd culture so games and gaming systems I like. I like video games and pen and pencil games and board games. I find it interesting to read on those sorts of things…
Find something you like that helps you relax and try it! That is my advice.
I hate the night when outer space is exposed. It makes me feel lonely, like I got lost there, somewhere between two stars.
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Reason I am not sleeping…I was talking to my friend in MD…about moving in with him next month. Being an adult and being lonely sux.
It would be nice at least I had a car, some disability or something so i could stand on my feet…well I do have food stamps. But that doesnt exactly get you from point A to point B and…so basically just sleeping the days away at this point depression is going to kill me if i dont figure a way to will myself out of my parents house
its not like they’re letting me stay here anymore its like they’re keeping me here i dont like it
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No to the group home. A pit of hell!
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Sounds like “hospital-redux” to me, quite honestly.
Relinquishing one’s independence only to be managed by case workers and attendants sounds like a dire option in my opinion.
Are there any Intensive Outpatient Programs where you live?
You can be around other people while working through issues in a safe setting.
Wishing you luck 
I live in a group home but in England. I heard they are much better here than American. I would hate to live in America.
When I sleep in the day, usually I’m up all night. The dark night sky horrifies me. I feel without light, black, which symbolizes complete isolation. If I’m unable to occupy myself, cleaning, reading, or writing, which I’m often unable to do, I feel like busting out of my body, uselessness. I cringe all night, waiting for it to pass. I can try to watch TV but it’s like I don’t see or comprehend what’s going on. My pdoc has got to get me a better sleep aid, not one that makes me sleep only 4 hours because then I sleep in the day and am up all night again to my horror. I was hoping in a group home to avoid this, though that doesn’t make sense because who’s up all night? I thought seeing people in the day I’d be better off, but now alone in the day it’s not as bad as at night. I’ve been reading HP Lovecraft and find remarkable similarities in what he wrote and what I’ve been experiencing.
I love playing cricket. Tomorrow there is an interesting match. Today, England ripped through Windies.
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I lived in a group home and I just despised it… No privacy what so ever. Living in an apartment can really suck to been doing it for about 7 years but it’s way better then a group home
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Group homes are a great way to meet the super crazies and jerk caretakers, it’s not a good way to live ---- matter of fact it’s usually worse than dealing with your parents …
I lived in a group home for a few years, everyone was also a drug addict
I am staying with my parents then when they die I will live in their home, its already paid. My brothers, cousins and friends can visit me. I have more privacy and freedom this way.