I have been struggling today. My parents want me to go to a group home. Honestly, I don’t want to got to a group home. I want to be independent. I am kind of scared to go to a group home. If I get better, how am I going to get out of a group home?
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I know how you feel to an extent. My ex wife while we were still together had me apply to a group home. Since I was a danger. They rejected me and luckily my family stepped in. I don’t know how group homes really work although I worked at one for about a month. I’m sorry I can’t be of more help but here if you need to chat.
Thanks @Niko_Alyxandir, I appreciate it.
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I wanted to live in a group home but my parents refused, they want me to live with them.
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@Niko_Alyxandir , what country do you live in? Do you know why they refused you?
Don’t be scared, Jake. Group homes are typically very safe. Your parents probably feel you would benefit from the extra support.
It would be different for sure. But not necessarily horrible. Maybe even good for you.
You might find friends there. You might be less independent but you still have freedom to do what you want. I lived independently for 20 years, mainly renting rooms in peoples houses. Near the end I was isolating but then my mom died and I got suicidal and ended up in a psyche ward for a couple days. From there, I was put in a group home. It had its negatives and positives.
I lived with 25 other people so it forced me to be around people; that was a good thing for me. I had to share a room which I had mixed feelings about. But I think it was good for me to be around someone else so much. Besides, I still got the room to myself a lot. And we could come and go as we please during the day. I was working but on my days off, I had the whole day to do as I please. We all ate meals together which could be a social time.
There was a TV room with computers. There was a huge patio out back with umbrellas, chairs and tables. Anyways, a lot of it sucked. It was good to be around people but I could have used more space. My room was small. Whenever you took a shower people would be knocking on the door or trying the doorknob. I’ve lived in several group homes and they weren’t terrible places. They’re good places to make friends.
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@Aziz are you muslim?
No I am not.
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@LilyoftheValley they didn’t really say. I’m in the US. But they rejected me then the hospital called cps on me when I was released. It was a mess.
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Ah, sorry to hear about the group home thing…
I don’t really know what they’re like though…
Maybe it wouldn’t be so bad but I hope for you that you don’t have to go (since it sounds like you don’t wanna go)
Oh @Jake, I’m sorry to hear this. Has it come as a shock or have they had this idea for a while?
Ive had a pretty poor experiences of group homes or “supported housing” as its known here.
Food going missing - messy kitchens - and even when the person below ran up the phone bill phoning sex lines, they expected the rest of us to cover part of it.
Not to worry you - but i would fight tooth and bloody nail to keep your independance.
I’m alright thanks. Qwertle is at his nannies today so I’m taking advantage of the free time and getting some housework done and indulging in a bit of warhammer.
Soon I will have a shower and pamper myself a bit.
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You sound like you’re too young. Do you live independently? I would try that first. You’d probably be very bored and I’m sure they’re a greater public expense, or one for you. I think it’s also persecutory to put someone in one, against their will.
I’m sorry. I feel so bad for you. That really sucks
@LilyoftheValley It’s okay. It worked out. I ended up leaving my ex and moving back home with family. My dad is in charge of my meds and I have support even though it’s stressful most times. Everything worked out the best it could.
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I’m happy for you then. 
My pdoc once suggested to me that it’s an option to go to a group home. However, I’m glad I didn’t accept. I prefer living with my family.
I hope they change their mind.
An old psychiatrist i had
had suggested to me
to live in group home
with other schizophrenics.
I didn’t like the idea.
Nor my folks liked it