I’ve heard mixed reviews on group homes. That’s why I chose to try to stick to my independence, though it feels like I’m just a helpless child sometimes. I hope you can find a solution that isn’t group home but it’s there if you need it.
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My best advice is get into a studio and make a few (sober n clean) friends
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Hey i also live in md
Me too I’m from lusby
Nice. Im from leonardtown but live in baltimore now
Wow. I spent my childhood at school at leonardtown…
I was in Hunting Quarter
When was that? Maybe we’ve met.
I lived in the # 1 group home in San Jose ( pop. 1,000,000), Ca. There’s a lot of group homes there. It was the cleanest, best run. I lived there 5 years, 1990-95.
In some ways it was OK. There were about 15 residents, all men. We didn’t have to cook or clean. The married couple had a family of three women come in on weekends and clean everything. All we had to do was make our bed every morning and keep our little area in our room near and picked up. They had a washer and dryer so we could do our laundry each week. It was two people to a room.
In my five years there I had two bad roommates and one OK roommate. We had very little responsibilities there. You could come and go as you please as long as you were there three times a day for meals and they dispensed medication.
The bad thing was there was practically nothing to there but watch TV. Other than the TV you had to entertain yourself.
It was a weird situation for me because I was practically the only one working. I was the only one going tp school. Most of the rest of the guys hung out on the porch smoking and drinking soda. Or they went out and drank and did drugs.
The owner was pretty good at keeping alcohol and drugs off the premises. Really good. He had a black belt in judo and didn’t get intimidated by anyone there. Everybody assumed he could kick ass and he was fine with that role. So he kind of enforced rules with an iron fist.
Curfew was at 10:00 pm every night. Yeah, I was in. unique position and at the time, I didn’t mind. I had just gotten clean and sober a couple months before I moved in so I wasn’t very popular with the main crowd who like I said, most of them drank or did drugs.
I was doing my own thing while I was there the whole time. Working, going to school and to AA, CA and NA meetings. So I was apart from everyone else.
But I made one friend while I was there and that was enough. We hung out and went to movies and AA functions and had a lot of fun together. So yeah, that’s how it was there. It had it’s bad points but my stay there was OK. I know most group homes were not as clean and well run as that one. There was little violence. It was pretty safe but if you didn’t have money it was hard to entertain yourself.
Wayyyyyyyy back in the early 90s I lived in a neighborhood called hunting quarter I was like 3 years old then later moved to lusby
Oh then we’ve probably never met. I moved there in like 2009 and left earlier this year. Whenever i go back i forget what year it is and see my memories all around me. It’s really hard but i still have friends there so it’s worth it.
Lived in a group home and a halfway house a few rooming houses and other shared accommodations. Socializing isnt guaranteed in any of those settings and sometimes its not a good idea. A few reasons are people asking for and to borrow things, getting involved in conflicts of sheer stupidy, living in others messes, the people there not being likeable etc. Its one of the reasons im on meds because i want to avoid ever having to live in a group setting.
I called someone from Schizophrenia Alliance today and had a good conversation.
I’m sorry you are going through this. In my humble opinion you need a nomal sleep schedule first. If you move into a group home and still sleep in the day, you will still be up all night and no friends being your company. Probably you should find a parttime volunteer job which will make you occupied during the day and then you could easily fall asleep at night.
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