I always said I don’t want them, but I want them because I saw my cousin has a kid and I just want them. but I know its not the right thing for us. Maybe my instincts are kicking in.
… I mean maybe my need to be a mother is kicking in but tis too late now I am in my late 30s.
I know what you mean. Men get Broody Too! lol.
I wont tho. For one im single again, and im pushing 50 this year.
Maybe in time if you got a stable relationship - try for one.
Any smile from a beautiful baby is guaranteed to cheer you up lol.
Just be careful… that’s a huge responsibility. You don’t want to let them down… trust me Its not a good thing. WAIT until you know your ready …
Even if I am ready, the other half doesn’t want kids. Up until now I didn’t want them either. but sometimes I really want to give in.
Just be careful. You’ve already got a mental illness. Sleepless nights and the stress of looking after a baby - can be challenging for your mind. Im sure i don’t need to tell you that.
Yeah that’s partly why I was against the idea of having them, adding the fact I can pass it on.
You have kids right?
“Yes or No” both are usually right.
But what you feel/ think is more important.
Only thing is this freaking illness.
Everywhere people build bricks talking about illness.
There is always what if what if what if.
But all I say Hope Trust and Belief will take you long way.
I really don’t know it’s very sensitive topic. To get opinions from others.
I don’t know why I am flipping out right now, may be I am saying something which I don’t have the will power to commit myself.
Yes i have an Autistic Daughter, She just turned 23. Lives with mum. Didn’t see her thru most of her teens. But im slowly building up a relationship with her and mum. Long Story.
It’s not complicated or anything subtle… you have an urge to have kids …you have an illness that makes things harder for you. The simple question is… is this the right time? You know the answer…
If not now, then it’s a case of never. I am 38. Okay, my neighbour is having a kid at 53, but still… I don’t want to wait that late to have them. my anxiety is the more prominent thing over anything else but I know psychosis can happen during pregnancy if I stop meds.
Same … I’m trying to get a relationship with my son again. My daughter hates me for not being there through her teens but my boy is still kinda open. I got them back in my life for a while then everything went out of control and I couldn’t be there again…
Sometimes I do and sometimes I don’t. I’m not sure
Good luck!!! You got it milly just work through it.
It’s not a matter of whether or not you have an illness that should be the deciding factor, IMO. I’m all for stable schizophrenics having children.
I think it comes down to a committment issue. You need to be sure that you can be in it for the long haul. This very important, IMO.
Yea… I totally agree with the commitment part but I think it’s common sense not to have a baby if your fighting aliens and whatever…
She said it’s mostly anxiety…the stress from the illness is real and the stress raising a baby is super real… She needs to be ready and committed…IMO
Maybe it’s the fact I saw my cousins baby I am feeling this way, he’s adorable. but you know it’s not enough reason to have kids. its a life time responsibility…
yeah, I agree.
Maybe give it some time. I’m not even saying years as you say you may be running out of time, but a significant amount of time anyway, so that you can make sure this desire is something you are committed too instead of just a passing fancy/urge because you saw a baby.
Yes, I think I would make a good mother, aside from the anxiety. My mum will be there to help, his family will be there, and most of all I know he will too… but I can’t just make the decision on a whim, need to take my time with it.
My daughter hates me as well, my boys still keep in contact once in a while. I take what I can get.