As above. One person in particular I find hard to like. So I was like forcing it, u should like this person, just not their actions. Nowadays I feel empowered cos I have given myself the right to not like them if I don’t like them. I still forgive this person cos it makes me feel better but at the same time I don’t like this person and now it feels OK not to like them. This seems contradictory but feels right.
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My friend told me thata is your right to Be selective with people who You talk/like/want to be friends witb
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I’ve always liked everybody 
Even kids I found annoying growing up I didn’t really think of it as being their fault and was still nice to them. The only way nowadays for me to not like you is if you’re repeatedly rude or mean to me or someone I care about. And you seriously have to continuously be mean because I don’t hold grudges and tend to forgive and forget really easily.
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@Anna yea I agree it’s the repetition that makes it difficult to like. The consistency and continuity of it.
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I only “hate” abusive people.
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we are not their judges, if they hurt they need more love. we are them and they us. we are each other healers. i think you may know this, perhaps forgot.
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I have always been selective on people, not everyone is welcome. I keep my circle small as possible, if you forget about me then its fine. I need a true friend rather than temporary one.
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In real life there is only one person I hate. And it’s only because she destroyed me so bad.
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emotionally embracing this particular person is like hugging a knife so I keep my distance.
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I reckon we’re all on a learning curve for a learning journey. Everybody we meet is at a different place on this trip. Like with addicted people: I just met a new person who’s slippery, but I don’t “hate” her. I’d like to help if I can, but she’s not ready to get sober because she uses projection as a defense mechanism every other thought. When she takes responsibility for her own addictive personality, then I will take her more seriously. I don’t “love” this person either. Don’t know her well enough. I only know she has a long way to go to get straight.
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You don’t have to like anybody you don’t want to. If you are referring to me since I kinda told “ya how it is”. I understand and is your choice. No sweat off my back. I know I can be a bitch, but in your mind ya thought I wanted you to take to “extremes” and be superwoman. All I say is have faith in yourself
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It’s someone I’ve known for years.
The Superwoman comment was coming from my own insight anyways… Cos I know I will have to be extremely mentally strong not to binge! Thanks for helping me see that I need to have faith in myself. It really helps to hear something like that. 
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You can do it! Hope it’s easier to read now🤗
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I used to think I needed to please everybody, not knowing that I wasn’t respecting myself.
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I’ve also felt very selective of who I like. I mean I give everyone a chance, but if I’m hurt or wronged in any way I usually don’t go back so easily. I do believe in second chances, but that comes with it’s own set of rules.
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I don’t like everyone, but I don’t have a problem with most people. I’m just kind of indifferent.
I try to see the good in everyone, and I’ve gotten good at convincing myself people don’t have bad intentions.
Some people rub me the wrong way. If there’s not a legitimate reason for me disliking them, I tend to feel super bad that I don’t like them. Especially if I can see that they’re trying to be nice or liked, like that one guy at school whose every move annoys me even though he’s genuinely super friendly.
If I have a valid reason for disliking someone, it’s usually because they’re repeat offenders, so to speak.
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I used to be nice to everyone but it’s hard to with people condemning me all the time.
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I am always careful with people
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I have longstanding hatred for certain people to the point that no amount of niceness can really repair the relationship I have with them. It’s unfortunate, I guess.
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I dislike most everyone and I’m okay with it, if we’re being honest. I do have to learn how to interact politely with them, however.
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