A friend i know keeps sending me emails asking me to meet up with a person but i just dont like her. Of everyone i met in my whole life, from all ranges of people who i generally accept and dont try to judge this person just has a bad vibe. She has this weird way of acting self important and need to stand out or be better than the rest at church.
I try to be fair but my dislike for her puzzles me.
Its not bc:
Of attractiveness. There were prettier women at church but they didnt bother me. They acted normally and mixed well with other women.
Her sculpting hobby. I have different interests.
Her ethnic status or personality. Ive met several from the same geographic location but they dont act like her.
Her job. She worked at a flower shop. Other women with high earning jobs didnt bother me. Like my cousins.
I dont care to meet this woman despite someone suggesting this to me 60 times, even during my visit to my dying aunt at a hospital. Sending me emails. I thought of her as total dirt for making such an egomaniacal request at such a time. Chillingly self serving with no sense of decency. Later, i was ignoring her email image uploads but searching for internet topics irrespective if her. It was never about her bc i found her unworthy of human decency.
Are there some people in life who we just cant ever like? My friend has to accept this but she cant Get this.
Sometimes you just get a bad vibe. I always recommend listening to your gut and avoiding people who rub you the wrong way. You’ll both be better off without each other.
Thanks chess and ninjastar. Your inputs were very much appreciated. Yes, i think there is nothing wrong with going by gut instinct. I think it is sccurate bc if her character was good i would never have such problems with the barrage of emails. Her friend turned out to be a bad person so it confirms that both egomaniacs gravitate to each other.
I will be around looking at posts to help ppl but im limiting venting online. I just had to mention this problem today bc it has been going on for a long time. Otherwise i would ignore it. But i dont think i will let myself think about such people anymore by taking their bait. Sad to say, i think i overestimated certain peoples capacity to change, but i dont think they are mature enough to handle disagreement without resorting to insults. I think i will be happier when i let go of expectations snd accept such people for who thry really are.
Clearly my humor isnt appreciated here. I am joking around but seriously it may not be hard to get rid of somebody in the dating world when they find out you have an illness like this. If you get a bad vibe from this person I wouldn’t feel comfortable telling them about my diagnoses or discussing it with them. Based on what you said about them, I wouldn’t expect them to accept it anyway. I’m not sure way it has to be so difficult to get rid of somebody? I’d make up an excuse like I started dating somebody else. Btw, I’m not sure why you had such a need to post all that stuff about this person if it was irrelevant as to why you wouldn’t date her?