My mom told me that I don’t like to take care of myself and I don’t try to relieve my physical symptoms. She told me that I am always in pain but does nothing to help myself. The thing is, I get too tired while using tools to help my pain…she just doesn’t know this.
She got angry with me today so I declined her help. I feel like she secretely hates me because I am disabled.
I think she has caregiver burnout…
I’m not going to ask for help anymore. She’s just going to get more upset if I ask her to massage my sore muscles.
I know that I am hurting her and I feel bad. I want to die early so that she won’t be burned out. How do I even make her happy??
It’s hard to hear when someone is tired of helping you and they think you aren’t doing anything to help yourself.
The answer is to help yourself. I know you have chronic fatigue and pain. I understand because I fight this, too. I donthave MD, but I do have possible sero negative lupus, psoratic arthritis, erosive osteoarthritis, fibromyalgia, and sjodgrens disease.
What helped me feel better was exercising. You start off small and build up slowly. You simply have to do for yourself or you will feel worse and worse.
Feeling sorry for yourself and angry all the time doesn’t do anything productive. You simply have to do things and rely on yourself more. It’s that or completely give up and ruin your life even more.
You are right. I just degenerated to the point that exercise must be carefully done. I’m currently waiting to be seen by a physiotherapist who can access me. I don’t know which exercise is good for me because it can easily ruin my muscles if not carefully done. But I will continue to walk around to help myself more. I should do more. I got this!!
Yeah. I agree with trying to help yourself as much as you can. If there’s something you cannot do at all then ask for help. But try to do as much as you possibly can
We have an electric vibrator and have been massaging each other’s backs since the quarantine began. It’s just a preventative measure. The vibrator has a long handle so we can keep a fair distance. It’s not super close. But you could do arms, legs and torso yourself.
