I am giving him time about meeting my brother but to be honest with you, is it even possible to be so shy to even hide a relationship from his own family. I mean really? He has never mentioned girlfriends to his family. His first girlfriend was with him two years. Am I something to be ashamed of?
I really don’t want to make any rash decisions so I’ll think it over during the weekend.
The thing that matters the most is how are things between you both. are you happy with your relationship ?
Not implying anything, but even if you are, does it change anything?
I think it shouldn’t play such a big role regarding rash decisions
Well if he is ashamed of me, then yes it matters and I would end it in an instant. I have self worth. But it would hurt so bad.
Ohh common, that’s life, not everything is that simple.
He might still love you dearly despite that.
Such thoughts are a bit egoistical. Would you let your ego ruin a nice relationship ?
Well it’s not about ego, I would question why he was with me if he was ashamed of me… whats the bloody point? Find someone you;re not ashamed of…
Have you told him how much this is bothering you? That it’s to the point of you wanting to end it?
Maybe you make him feel better and give him a chance to care for someone, that’s a valuable thing.
I need to talk to him in person, not over the phone.
That sounds like I am looking for pity or someone to feel sorry for me… I don’t need that… I want a relationship not pity.
But I’m just scared he’ll actually end it…
Why pity? that’s your interpretation, he might feel differently. just talk to him and get things straight
Don’t pose it to him as an ultimatum, just tell him how much is bothering you. That you feel hes embarrassed of you. Whatever.
Some people don’t value family the same way as you do. It is possible that family is not part of the equation in comparison to a relationship. Especially male to female in ratio.
I have had quite a few relationships lasting over a year and it didn’t cross my mind to introduce them to my family. It never even crossed my mind to do so. it wasn’t an issue. If it happened then so be it, but it wasn’t an issue.
To you the family seems to mean a great deal. From your perspective it is so important. To others, it may mean little.
That could be possible. I mean being Indian we usually introduce to the family pretty quickly, get married, pretty quick too… but I guess for him it might be different…
There is two possibilities:
Smart decision. Like with most relationships, you have to decide if the good is worth the bad.
Some men wait a very long time until they get serious about a relationship.
They want their cake and eat it too! Communication is so important in a relationship. How long have you known him?
When my husbands family found out I was sz, they didn’t feel I’d be safe to be around my nephew (was in 9th grade) and after 10 years of me being there. They thought I was bipolar. Besides, I can’t have kids and stay at home. He recently told them off and said if they couldn’t accept me as his Choice, then they’re not choosing him. Meant a lot for him to stand up for me, but his family now blames m for ruining family. I go once a week to dr and I let one of them listen to vm I get cuz they don’t want to see me hurt…blocking is cool for texts but vms show up as blocked messages. He might not be embarrassed by you…just doesn’t want you getting hurt
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