For those that suffer from low self esteem, try talking to yourself (when no one’s around), and get to feeling better about yourself by complimenting your looks, or just discuss problems you face…really helps me.
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I tried this daily for years. It didn’t help me unfortunately
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I think affirmations randomly and it’s definitely a pick me up.
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@LilyoftheValley you have to fake it until you make it…try and believe the compliments you say…there’s a trick to believing what you say that is nice to yourself…I think forgiveness of things you’ve done is a good subject that you can talk about…work out your deepest problems…be your own friend.
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I end up cringing. Might try again. With more consistency. Part of mind tells me that I’m telling myself big lies.
@AhmShere ask yourself in the mirror? what should we talk about? something bothering you about your looks is good to start…but ask yourself the deep questions you need help with or that are lacking that you want to improve and discuss these things with yourself and forgive along the way.
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I have a receding hairline. I’m aging. I don’t think telling myself i look great will change my appearance.
I am a middle aged man who wear a lot of hats and bandanas or do a comb over.
I dont have the look to shave my head.
It’s not that bad to not be a head turner. I’m okay with my self esteem.
I think i you post your photo. You look good @jukebox I hope you know that.
aw man…you’re wrong…you are just aging…you are beautiful in the only way you can be…how cool you dress up…I would love that…!! aw i just saw you say I look good…thank you !! ppl used to tell me I looked like james dean in my twenties…haha thanks…means a lot…just be kind to your looks in your speech to yourself…fight to believe it…get sincere when you talk with yourself. @Kxev
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Appreciate it. True I maybe too self deprecating and not say those things about myself. It might be affecting me on some level.
But yeah, James dean was a good looking guy.
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aw shucks…I can’t help it if I’m sexy…haha…j k…thanks man…
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This is a good idea, @jukebox! Thanks.
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@Kxev I’ve seen photos of you! You are an adorable little thing! You have nothing to worry about.
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Great advice. Thanks @jukebox .
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I cope with low self-esteem by accomplishing things so I have stuff to feel good about.
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Yes I talk to myself in the mirror… Its amazing what it can do.
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I tried that and all I could focus on is my weight and also grey hair I’m getting it dyed eventually anyway I know I’m a good person who tries to be nice to everyone I just don’t like how I look and my voice I’m a lousy singer too but yeah I am definitely one of those people who does there best to make others happy
I’d be significantly more happier If I thought of myself as I think about other people I know that anyway I’m going a bit off topic
I remember when I was in this like place for like drug addicts and mentally ill. It was like a place to live for drug addicts and mentally ill with nowhere else to go. When I got put in the psyche ward once, they sent me there.
Anyway, we had these classes we were forced to take. One of the things in one of these classes was some activity that included this self talk in the mirror.
Anywho, One day I admitted that I had not done my self talk. The instructer then got all mad and indignant that I had not done. She forced me to do and acted all pissed at me that I hadn’t done it.
It’s like…umm isnt this supposed to be for my benefit and make me feel better? Why are you getting all pissed and trying make me feel bad? Isnt that counterproductive?
Anyway, point is she was a stupid B word.
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She doesnt have that job because a genius
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I came up with a bunch of affirmations but I already believe all of them.
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