I always obsess about this girl and tell her stories with me online. Even when I try to forget her, she creeps back into my mind and I fall in love all over again. It’s been years since I last talked to her, and it’s been even longer since she symbolically told me she didn’t want me around any more.
I’ve tried to tell people about this but I can’t get the words out because everything takes so much time to see a therapist and by then I feel like I’m over it and the idea changes but she never leaves my thoughts. I think about her everyday almost all day and it became a distraction in class today where I couldn’t even focus on the lecture.
Maybe a psychiatrist could help you figure out why you obsess about this girl. Then again, he might come up with some kind of baloney about how you really wanted your mother.
Hey man I know how it feels. I liked this girl pretty much all through high school and only messaged her a few months ago, after I’d graduated. She didn’t respond.
i texted this girl i was friends in school who i think i coudlve went somewhere wit and than after that day i just didn’t talk to her anymore we talked for a while but than she didn’t say anything so im like ■■■■ it,
i kinda was obsessive about her when i first became psychotic but when i got back to school and heard her and everyone else talking about me i felt betrayed
i don’t talk to many girls now because im not in school and i don’t really go anywhere, i do talk to this one girl now tho but she lives in another country and she is just a cool friend
I just heard something on people have more prosocial behavior when everyone in a society is involved in food production and that colonialists in america ran off to the native american tribes even though they were more savage.
I also read something about a bdsm master got “a kick out of being a ‘protector’”. That statement resonated with me because I felt like I was doing that for this girl. That’s probably why I have a fixation on her.
And if this is true and you guys are right that I’m closing myself off to a real relationship, all I’ve got to do is replicate the sense of danger and community within that danger.
My life is pretty stable right now and usually has been besides my time in the ghetto. Which I totally fixated on before this girl came along. So there’s something to being in the face of adversity among your peers that brings out the best in us.
I can relate, I try not to think about that person anymore. I also learned to stay away, I usually make a fool of myself when I don’t. She doesn’t want me in her life anymore. Just let her go Arturo. I know you’ll always have memories but don’t let the past bring you down. I agree with SkinnyMe. You’re a good looking fellow, you can find someone. I don’t know if you should tell your doctor. I hardly mention it because it myself because it is not her fault and I don’t want to involve her in my schizophrenic life.
I think plenty of us have a similar situation. I’ve met other schizophrenic people who heard a woman’s voice they once knew. I didn’t hear voices at the time but sometimes I do know albeit rarely.
I dated this girl for 3 months 2014-15
I still message with her sometimes
I still dream about her sometimes
And she messages back.
Maybe some people just have a stronger connection with each other than others would?
Well in my case it was a couple of years. 2015 is pretty recent I’ve been single for much longer than that. Also she is married now and I think that’s why she doesn’t want me in her life. Her husband does not approve and I respect that. Also once I called when I was off meds for awhile. I was psychotic.