I am not good at making friends. But i seek to make more friends, so i can learn things about life. Keep moving. I shall not get inhibited by negative thoughts.
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I have very few friends, I would like to have more female ones as I tend to get along with them well/better.
Social anxiety and intrusive thoughts are barriers as well as ocd and frank lack of motivation or will to initiate…
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Getting paranoia and voices does not help you to make new freinds
There are places on the internet where you can meet other singles but most women like to go out at night and I find that difficult
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@Anon10 I like to make proper friends. My preference is open. I dont mind if the friend is male or female. As long as I have friends its fine. I get what you are saying. I have those barriers as well. But CBT might help overcome those in due course of time.
@shellys12 can you let me know what are those places on internet where i can make friends. I am in India. So not sure if i can meet people of same types as well as there. Some sort of introduction and story will make it ease a bit. And then can really get along well. Knowing what we are doing and stuff.
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It is good that you have these human desires, I hope they’ll give you the motivation you need to get out and somewhat rebuild your social life. 
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I’d like to make friends but I feel like everybody is so judgemental and I’m scared that they will hurt me and stab me in the back. I always end up feeling like a freak. I hate it I’m so lonely.
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I am with you on this. I feel the same. But when i talk to a Pdoc or Psychologist. They try to understand. But they cannot be friends for life. Yes i would like to meet friends who are not judgemental, and does not think we are freak. When i talk to customers i feel like i am doing well, as they dont judge always. They want to get their issue resolved. So i feel comfortable there.
What i expect is that here we can be friends without any benefits. We can chit chat whatever we feel like. Not feel like judging or poking at our feelings. We can set certain rules so we can adjust accordingly.
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i have no friends…but a menatal health club helps me…you should try joining
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mental health club you mean? can you let me know the site’s full address. Thanks @karl
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Sriharryster, imho friends are overrated. As long as you have ur family and a few good friends with you youre good, no need to be a social butterfly. You have to have an attractive face for that, or an attractive mindset/wardrobe/personality. Most of which I’m lacking. For most ppl it just happens naturally, for me I have issues with ppl. Sort of like a fear of abandonment which makes me never attach. I often am afraid of ppls judgement or make a fool of myself in their presence. I hold normal ppl on a pedestal. It doesn’t help that I’m what my judgemental high school classmates used to term “socially retarded”.
I have low level delusions of persecution, have had them since early teens, where I feel like everyone is against me. I’m so distrustful and afraid of being hurt I don’t even bother to try making friends. I kind of sort of hate everyone, for being higher functioning, better looking, more well dressed etc. I really have a complex when it comes to clothes and fashion. Like I think I’m not wearing the right clothes or I’m not fashionable enough. I tend to obsess about it, and clothes make the person so I always feel underdressed in ppls presence.
It doesn’t help that I’ve gained weight and barely fit into any of my clothes. What are you gonna do when your mother buys most of your clothes for you, you can’t look fashionable in a university where everyone has 5 pairs of shoes.
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I guess I’m destined to live in my mothers basement and look frumpy and have no friends.
i used to hate other higher functioning people meaning everyone around me
i was so jealous of them that it ripped my soul apart
but as i was growing older i saw how unnecessary it was
because we all suffer from one thing ore another whether it’s a character flaw or deepest sadness over things we can’t control
and we are all beautiful in some way because of that
so now i see inspiration in other people not competition
(i tried to make all this sound less pathetic 
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other things are pretty much the same in my life like it’s in yours
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@Anon10 You have the feeling that you have your mother to take care and you atleast live there. But I have a home, office to go, people to meet, family to take care. Yet i feel i dont live my life compared to others. It makes me sick thinking how normal others are. But here i am still in my mind think that i am not human. I always get angry. I cannot make friends. I am a sinner. I am blasphemy to the society. I am destined to die. I am worth nothing to the society. I cannot understand, do simple things. Complex things make me want to puke or make me want to wander in wrong directions. I am always negative without my consent.
So its better to have friends who support my wishes and live happy instead of running my thoughts around futile things.
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