I miss my ex boyfriend

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I’m pretty upset.

I feel gutted

But I don’t know if I should get back in contact as I don’t know if I’m secure in myself enough

I could trial it out

But not sure it’s fair on him.

I just feel so lonely. Without him.

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I do feel more secure enough atm but I might relapse into insecurity by certain things he says

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I’m not blaming him

I’m just weird and get triggered into insecurity sometimes by random stuff

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I don’t remember, why did you leave him to begin with?

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Life is so boring without him.

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The main reason is insecurity feelings regarding what if he likes my sister.
Also some financial reasons but I think he will be okay.
I think I need to be more trusting

And develop a thicker skin if things go upside down for me.

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I’m seriously so bored and feel demotivated. Just lying in bed all day.

Wtf

It’s as if I’m on 15mg abilify again

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I just need female friends irl maybe that would help

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I’m going to a meet up today! And next week maybe I should wait and see how that goes

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I don’t really miss any of my exes. Sometimes they broke up with me and sometimes I broke up with them but I got over it in both cases. However I do miss certain things about them sometimes, and I miss the companionship, we did have some good times even if in the end things didn’t work out.

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Do you think believing he was interested in your sister was paranoia?

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I think it’s cos we were keeping in contact nearly every day for 2 months and I only just ended it.

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I mean he’s never met her. So I don’t know.

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Oh, yeah, then definitely paranoia. Are you going to try and date him again?

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I don’t know. I really don’t know.

I think it might just be because it is early days of the break up.

So I should try hard to give it some time and see how I feel.

I guess?

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That’s good you got over them. How long did it take?

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Could this be a sign I’m too dependent or is it just love

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I don’t know if I could be “just friends” with an ex, maybe, I’ve lost contact with all of them so I don’t have any experience with that. I don’t think it would work out in most cases though. if i were to run into them I would be friendly and stuff, not hateful or vindictive, but to hang out with them or talk to them on the phone on a regular basis I don’t think I would do that.

When I got dumped I still had feelings for her and the thought of being just friends when I wanted more wouldn’t have been good enough. And vice versa, I’ve broken up with girls that wanted to get back together and wanted more.

I guess some people do it successfully but I think it is rare. For me when it’s over it’s over, I’ve learned to move on.

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Yea I think this is kind of the stuff I need to hear.

I don’t know if it’s a good idea to go back you see.

Cheers dude

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Im lonely too. It sucks.

When I’m not in a romantic relationship then i’m lonely, but when I’m in one then I feel trapped. My last relationship I kept breaking up and getting back together again, lots of times.

Strange though I can have long-lasting platonic friendships where I don’t feel trapped. My therapist said it was to do with the relationship I had with my mother, where I was made responsible for her needs. But she didn’t say how to fix it. If you figure it out let me know :yarn:

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