The verdict is still out on how to help people like her and myself. I would eat for every occasion in my life, and one of the biggest reasons I ate was that I felt unlovable.
I know one thing from experience is that warnings of severe consequences dont work, and I know many experts in addiction agree.
What helps for me is to be encouraged when I do something that is beneficial to me. Instead of people gabbing about my weight and how I shouldn’t go back for seconds or thirds, compliment me when I dont go back for more. Tell me I’m doing a good job. Maybe it sounds like the kind of hand holding a toddler needs, but that validation has helped me more than any warnings of my impending doom.
The only thing you can do is be supportive to her, and understand that she will work on it when she’s ready. Telling people they are killing themselves is a sure fire way to get them deeper into their addiction. Ive let it cause a lot of rifts in my relationships even though I know they were trying to help.
Long story short, give compliments and understand she has to do it herself for herself.
I feel like we need to have a heart to heart about it, but I think she’d just get hurt so I don’t know how to preface it in such a way that that doesn’t happen. Or at least in such a way our friendship doesn’t take a hit and she doesn’t feel hurt and like I’m not loving her the way she is
Maybe she shud take a break from sex and work on her diet. It will be hard to do very very hard she’ll probably suffer for a while but it will get easier.
really get to understand how nasty diseases are the symptoms and a basic understanding of how disease manifests from obesity helps me to visualise the problem and so want to get out of that mess, reverse it as much as possible…
Yeah. Always planning to start being healthy tomorrow never works because it’s always tomorrow and never today. I have to consciously decide today I’m going to eat 1200 calories to get healthier today. It’s the only attitude that works for me
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