Oh ok I see your concern. Sorry it’s not really my business. Just commenting my thoughts. You know the situation much better than I do. 
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Why is your husband not going to be there?
I guess I didn’t read correctly or misunderstood.
This weird guy you’ve never meet is coming over while it’s just the two of you at the house?
Wow.
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You should ask your stepdaughter who this guy is and look him up.
See if he’s on any lists, prior arrests, things like that.
Your husband may not think his daughter is your business,
But he’s wrong.
You don’t need a weird dude in the house and it impacts your life.
Who the ■■■■ trusts the judgement of an 18 year old girl?
Literally no one.
Except 18 year old girls.
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Yeah @Charles_Foster . I agree. My husband is driving for Uber right now. I met the guy, and he seems ok to me luckily. He’s acting very respectful towards me.
I asked my stepdaughter for his info before he came. Turns out he has a legal name she can’t remember, and he goes by a different name that his family calls him, and that’s the name she remembers so I wasn’t able to look him up.
Even though I now think he’s probably ok , and I’m not getting weird or bad vibes from him, I’m going to write my husband a letter explaining to him why, both as a woman and as a trauma survivor, I am uncomfortable with strange men coming to my home without him present.
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That’s a good idea.
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This is not good.
EVERY time a guy gives me like his nickname or whatever,
It’s because he’s got a record.
Fact.
I’d get some more information.
I’ll also go ahead and add,
Your stepdaughter knows this and that’s why she’s not telling you.
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Ok. I’ll ask him for more info. I bet you’re right. Ugh.
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Also my experience. Saying this as an idiot who sold stuff in nightclubs for a biker gang before cleaning up. People who only go by a nickname and won’t give a real name are 100% bad juju. Don’t let him in your house.
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They’re walking the puppy. I’ll ask questions when they get home
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Ok. So he doesn’t have a record. He has a Muslim name and doesn’t use it for fear of discrimination. One parent is Russian, the other is Arabic and Muslim.
He’s a high voltage electrician, so that’s pretty good for a 21 year old in my opinion.
So far, I think he’s ok but I’ll try to think of more things to ask to get to know him better. He just went home.
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I stand corrected, that’s a good reason. I just hope he isn’t traditional in terms of how he treats women.
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Yeah. I’ve only been around him today so far, but I will say he was very respectful towards me. We’ll see over time ho respectful he is to my stepdaughter. But that’s true with any date she brings home
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I understand the name thing and reason.
But I’d still be upset about this situation.
Your husband put you in a situation that made you very uncomfortable.
It’s your house too.
You shouldn’t be made to deal with it in your home.
And if the stepdaughter is 18 and allowed to do what the ■■■■ she wants,
Why can’t she move out?
She can have him in HER home all she wants.
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