I’m trying to prepare myself

It’s so sad seeing my father rapidly getting worse health wise.
He’s very old and getting more and more fragile and weaker by the day.
I managed to handle my Moms passing but I don’t know how I’m going to handle the inevitable when the time arrives with my dad.

He’s been my rock and long time support system for so long.

I have to talk to my brother about this and I will be talking to my psychiatrist, therapist and caseworker about how I’m feeling.

God help me, I don’t know if I can face this world by myself.

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I understand the feeling a bit. It is pretty difficult.

You won’t be completely alone, we will still be here at the very least

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I’m so sorry :frowning:

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I’ve lost both of my parents when I wasn’t expecting it. Sorry this is on your mind @Wave. If you need to talk, my PM box is always open. :heartbeat:

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Thanks @anon83141956 @anon2818416 and @anon40540444

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I understand. I am not ready to lose my support system either. It’s so hard.

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Thanks @LilyoftheValley
It’s very hard, I’ve never lived on my own before.

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I did when I was 16-22 years old. It’s hard to not have support. I’ve lived with some ever since then and I’m 43

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Honestly I don’t think I could manage to live on my own.
I really don’t know what I’m going to do.

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I’m sorry wave. Hugs.

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Thanks @roxanna

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I hope your father has many many more years.

What do you think would be the tricky bit of managing your own affairs though?

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Would you consider a group home?

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I think I’ll have to live in a group home if my husband dies

@everhopeful thanks.
I get very paranoid and fearful when I’m alone for a while.
Maybe with some support from my brother I’ll manage.

The charity organization I belong to owns group homes and supportive housing.

This is a possibility for me as well. @LilyoftheValley

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Well, it’s inevitable. It’s smart to plan ahead for when that day comes. You’re making a good start by talking to your doctor and therapist. There’s always group homes if you want to go that route.

My therapist helped me find my studio about ten years ago. I put my name on a waiting list and didn’t really think about it. Then four years later my name came up and I left the room I was renting and moved into the studio. That’s maybe a possibility for you. Put your name on waiting lists and then forget about it. Who know’s? Maybe four years or five years from now you may need a place and they might call you.

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Thanks @77nick77

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I’m glad you have a connection like that.

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Yes thanks @LilyoftheValley

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I’m sorry @Wave . I second the idea of a group home. I think that type of environment would work well for you and your mental health.

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