Relationships shouldn’t feel like this much of an effort. I’ve not met him and I already feel like I’m having to put on an impression. It already tells me … bad idea. I simply am intimidated by his intelligence. I’m gonna tell him I admire his intelligence but i am feeling a little insecure
Finding the right one things should just sort of click, I think. Though, when I met my husband I wasn’t attracted to him at all. He was a little annoying and not cute. But he was nice and I liked having a good friend. Then somehow I realized a few months later I was in love with him and he was super cute. So, maybe just find someone you could be good friends with? I don’t know.
1 Like
Yes you’re right. Should I say I’m not looking to date him but would like to meet purely as a friend , not a date thing ? And see where it goes ?
If you think you could be good friends, I think you may as well try. Having friends is never bad.
1 Like
Plus it takes the pressure of the whole where will this lead thing. Just get to know each other before you decide if you want to be romantically involved.
1 Like
Should I mention feeling a little bit insecure about the intelligence. I can say I want to be friends so I can drop trying too much and feel more comfortable.
Don’t put yourself down! Just say you want to take the pressure off and get to know him first. Or something. Someone smarter than me probably had some ideas.
1 Like
He sounds like an academic who can’t hold a normal conversation to me 
1 Like
Consider that he might be trying to impress you a bit, too. It’s possible that once you meet, he’ll relax a bit and communication will be easier.
1 Like
It’ll happen when you least expect it so this is good.
lol I’m just gonna say what @led said. I think he’s cool but I want to take the pressure off the dating thing and go for a drink as friends only.
1 Like
Omg he said I set a new record of friendzoning him and he wants something long terms … he thinks he likes me … so would much rather start as friends … and I’m super happy 
1 Like
@led please read our text 
1 Like
It’s difficult for me to find anyone I can hold an intelligent conversation with. Most people want to make small talk, which is not my favorite, but something I’m learning to do.
Lots of people seem to ignore/avoid me, but I think that’s mostly because I’m strange to them. I’d suggest giving him a chance as a friend at least. Smart people get lonely too.
1 Like