Everyone on here that went through binging and purging, it’s a sensitive subject. My sister does it and never got help. I wish I can take away all her pain just like all of you. I’m so sorry for people that have to experience that. @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter your husband sounds like he’s doing the best. We are all only human. We all make mistakes, but we lived through so much we make the right choices
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@Sardonic You do not know that this isn’t going to end well. You don’t have that information. My husband bought me candy, not a pistol. I am not beating you. You also posted on a public forum. Someone sharing their perspective is not “beating you into submission”.
@Winterblues
Oh no!! Your poor sister!! Has she reached out to you? It’s an absolute nightmare! I wish I could help
her! It’s sooo scary!
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No she talks to few people about it, she has had the problem since high school and is close in age to me. I wish she would reach out.
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Me, too! Life can be so much better! She doesn’t have to suffer!
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I know, she needs a therapist for different ways of thinking, but regardless she is very strong and doesn’t let things bog her down. She didn’t believe in therapy when we were teenagers, then I got all my problems at that time
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It sounds like it was a REALLY tumultuous time for your family.
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We got through it, ALL of us. My mom turned her life around, and she is such a great person
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That’s beautiful!!
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Well clearly I’m not psychic. Of course I don’t know. I just mean that I have a bad feeling about this.
That’s not the point. What I’m saying is that your husband bought something that he knew would trigger some of your unhealthy eating behaviors. It’s not like he just wanted to cheer you up or something. You said he did it out of spite. That’s what worries me. That he’s willing to do something that makes recovery that much more difficult just because he’s angry.
I don’t care whether or not someone disagrees with me. We all have differing opinions. My issue is that people on this forum open up about their problems, but then when they don’t get an answer they like, they go off.
Do you know how many times people here have made leaps about my mental state, my relationships, my personality, my faith, my situation as a whole? In fact, I recall you advising me to ignore my mother’s warnings about calling the police while feeling increasingly homicidal because she didn’t know what she was talking about. I never disregarded your advice, nor did I ever attempt to belittle or silence you by exclaiming that you’re not a black woman living in the heart of conservative Texas.
All I did was warn you about what looked to me like a possibly unhealthy situation. If you disagree, then that’s fine, but don’t treat me like my opinions don’t matter simply because I’m not completely finished growing up. And you know nothing about me or what I’ve been through, what I’m going through. You have no idea what it took for me to get here. I’m a lot of things, L, but a pushover is not one of them. I’m not going to abandon my concerns just because you tell me to…
I digress.
I care for you, deeply, and I still believe that you deserve only the best. Take care of yourself, L. And please, please be careful. Old habits die hard.
@Sardonic Were you seeking to be helpful? Do you think you were helpful?
We’re talking junk food, not meth. Come on. Maybe he was hungry.
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I’m familiar with the disorder. I just think this is both an overreaction and a case of jumping to conclusions.
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Yes. I am very worried. I want you to be healthy and safe.
Well, I thought I was, but you and @anon9798425 are angry with me, so I suppose not. I was trying to convince you to look deeper into your husband’s motives, not decimate your family.
It’s not about the food. @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter said that he did it to be spiteful, to tempt L into giving in to her unhealthy eating behaviors. Now I am worried that such behavior will escalate.
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@Sardonic
I am not angry with you. Your pattern on this thread is to add to the words being said. It was candy, not a pistol. I can confront my husband, I don’t have to leave him. I gave you a response, I didn’t beat you. You said I treated you like your opinions don’t matter, but in reality, I’m engaging in conversation with you to hear your words and your perspective. You said I went off, but actually what I did was write back and not agree with your words. And now, you are saying @anon9798425 and I are angry with you, when neither of us said that.
I wanted to hear your motive. I trust that you are seeking to be helpful. It is a skill to address the words said and speak accurately.
What are some other things you could tell or ask someone who is going to binge?
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I’m not angry with you, I promise.
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I’m with you! I lost 6 pounds recently from a healthy weight and trying to get back up! 
If you are trying to gain weight, there are healthy alternatives to this! Fruits can be really good, and veggies with white meat (chicken breasts, etc). Also, I like rice with some veggies and a meat dish.
I hope you’re doing well! Best of luck.
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Thank you @anon10648258!
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At two years of age, my son was healthy and active thank goodness. But, at the age of 21, he came down with paranoid sz.
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