@Sardonic
He’s not perfect, but he’s wonderful! We both need to grow, learn, and mature. We both have strengths and weaknesses. We’re committed to each other and to our family!
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@SkinnyMe
I ate Swedish fish, ice cream, and chicken nuggets. I didn’t even want them, I just felt like I HAD to. Maybe it was self-punishment.
It doesn’t have to mean anything. Just start over starting now.
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I still feel committed. I’m just worried because the food is in the house now. But you’re right! I’m sorry for disappointing you. 
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Thanks @FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter i appreciate it
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You haven’t disappointed me. You’re just human.
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Oh fu ck that. No one’s expecting anyone to be perfect, but buying things just to trigger an unhealthy behavior in someone isn’t a character flaw, it’s a choice. There are certain acts that are just unacceptable.
You know me. I have suicidal and homicidal command hallucinations. How would you react if my mom gave me a gun for Christmas? You’d tell me to get out of that situation, as it could only end one way. Am I wrong? Yeah, that’s what I’m trying to do for you.
Eating disorders, including binge eating disorder, can be fatal. Your husband is a grown ass man, and he’s old enough to understand that mental illness is not a game.
I get that you love your husband, really, I do, but my opinion stands. What’s your family going to do if you end up in the hospital for another month because your unstable blood sugar levels made you severely depressed?
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“What’s your family going to do if you end up in the hospital for another month because your unstable blood sugar levels made you severely depressed?”
Or dead?
Have you ever been married? Do you know what it’s like for your husband to own a business, care for your kids, drive you to and from appointments, wash your clothes, cook your meals, clean the kitchen, pick up toys, count out and hide the rest of your medication, pay your hospital bills, field phone calls and emails from your psychiatrist and counselor and iop therapists, take you on visits to your family, sit with you at church, and walk with you outside…all in a week? No, @Sardonic, I am not leaving my husband because he bought me candy and ice cream.
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Could you politely turn him down when he offers it to you?
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You assume because I said I was going to binge that I have an eating disorder. Have you had one, @Sardonic
I have. I spent six months in inpatient. Have you heard of The Renfrew Center Eating Disorder Treatment Facility? Yeah, I lived there. Plus, I know the years before inpatient of suffering and the years after of fighting in recovery. I know the thousands of dollars my parents spent on the best treatment available. I know what it’s like to feel compelled to enormous amounts of food. I know what it’s like to drink ipecac because the laxatives, exercising, and restricting wasn’t enough.
I don’t have an eating disorder anymore. I ache for the men and women who struggle with one, where a binge costs hundreds of dollars, who are enslaved to connecting their self-worth and their personhood to what they eat and do with their body.
I ate more than I should have, and I ate what I shouldn’t have. But no, I don’t have an eating disorder.
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Thats a really jerk move by your husband honestly. I dont think you should leave him, but definitely confront him about it and let him know that this is not ok, regardless of what you were arguing about.
And dont worry about giving in to your cravings. That will happen from time to time, but you need to not get discouraged and keep on with the diet, never give up on your goals!
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@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, I too know what it’s like to drink ipecac in a desperate attempt to vomit up my food after eating up literally everything in the house. I suffered from bulimia for years and years. And, like you, I don’t suffer from it anymore, thank God.
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And if I have to go into the hospital again, @Sardonic, my family will do again what they have the last five times I went in. They will love me, support me, and care for me. They will remember that I love them, I support them, and I care for them. They will bring me pictures to hang on the wall. My husband will visit me, hold me, hug me, kiss me, and love me. I will call my kids and tell them how wonderful they are, how much they mean to me, and how excited I am to see them again. We are a family impacted my mental illness. We love each other. We endure. We fight. We work hard. And by God’s grace and mercy, we strive.
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Yes! I don’t need to eat it, just because it’s in our house. It’s just another opportunity to stay committed and strong! @SkinnyMe
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Oh @SkinnyMe! I’m so sorry! I don’t want that for anyone!! I wish I could go back and take it all away from you! How did you heal? When did you heal? Does weight loss trigger any symptoms for you?
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@zwolfgang Thank you for good advice! I will talk with him and explain to him how important it is for me to eat healthy.
I won’t give up! It didn’t taste as good as it used to! Thanks for your support and kindness!
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@FlyingPurplePeopleMeeter, Believe it or not, my two year old son healed me. When he was two years old, he required constant watching and care and I decided that his care was more important than my bingeing and purging so, I just quit bingeing and purging just like that. Overnight.
No thankfully, weight loss doesn’t trigger symptoms in me. I am 59 years old now and the last time I was bulimic was for a short spell when I was about 40 years old. Since then, I have been free of it.
Thank you for your kind words.
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@SkinnyMe
Wow! That is IMPRESSIVE! What a selfless, generous, brave, determined act! That’s one of the most INSPIRING stories of motherhood I’ve ever heard!
Was he healthy and active? Or ill in need of care?
I’m so, so glad you’re recovered and unwavering! That’s INCREDIBLE!
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What? So I can’t have an opinion because I’m not married? You posted on a public forum, and I absolutely refuse to be beaten into submission by you or anyone else. I don’t care if that man pulled you out of a burning building. This situation is not healthy. My mom gives me everything. EVERYTHING. But if she gave me a pistol, every single reply would be telling me to get the fu ck out of there, without the gun, because it’s dangerous. Doesn’t matter what anyone does for you if you’re dead, and I don’t have to have an eating disorder, or a partner, or a child, to understand that this isn’t going to end well. I care about you. I’m worried about this situation, and I won’t apologize from that. Please stay safe.
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