something’s not right there
when I was on I was talking to up to 20 guys a day
maybe more
I only met about 4 or 5 of them though.
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I think women gett muchhhh more views or meet mes on that site. Especially if you say you are not looking for something long term. But I’m not sure about that second part thou. I mean that’s what I wrote
I never went for the guys that said they just want to Have Fun, Nothing Serious
they’re either married, or been thru 3 divorces.
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I can kind of see the Arabic bit in your face and its nice @Jonnybegood
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It’s just really demoralizing and then I go to real life and I have less confidence because feeling ignored online , it takes away confidence about real life.
I will probably become the most famous rapper in the world before I ever met a girl on online dating!! And then at that point it will be too late to be in a relationship because every girl will want me not for myself but for the clout, money and fame. Well , if a girl knew my life story, she might feel for me and be interested in me (assuming she’s an empath at all) and would understand why I am single and the way I am.
I dunno man I improve so much mentally eachand every day that this doesn’t seem that unbelievable to me. It’s hard to defeat the trauma, get myself out there, and be myself and feel completely confident in my skin. But cmon, the things I were told about myself from ages 11-14 were all lies. I know they were lies now. And it’s some ■■■■■■■■ ??? Really…
I guess I just gotta steer myself the right way and not sell myself short, to be put in the best possible position. And knowing me, eventually it will be a good one.
I’d like to go ahead now and label myself a “humble narcissist” if that’s possible. Honestly feel I have the two polar extremes of narcissism and humility really out on a string on opposite points.
I think im a narcissist, but I have known this for almost a decade now. It’s been helpful to have insight and now people don’t notice my narcissism. Except me, because I’m in my own head.
Honestly I’m really into myself I can’t lie. But I’m not self centered. If that makes sense. Maybe girls don’t like me they’re confused by me. One day I know they’ll want me when they know about me… I hope.
you’re in a tough age range
more and more young women are not settling down or even dating
I hear about it all the time.
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you’ve got to think about having those magic encounters
make the moment last, and don’t smother it
I’ve met quite a few guys in coffee houses, and never saw them again
but it was good for my soul.
My biggest abuser just got married and always posts about it on Facebook.
He is just a piece of ■■■■, sociopathic, abusive person who used me all his life to get ahead himself. There’s no way I can possibly or anyone say that I’m not a better person than him. I have everything better than him besides wickedness and evil he’s better than me I don’t care what anyone says. Life isn’t fair.
I wish life was a two way even street.
But mostly it’s a 1 way curvy narrow dead end with the devil at the end of the street.
Excuse my metaphor getting carried away.
I’m feeling creative and a bit manic today tbt.
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I was giving up on love
when I met Phil
I think we both knew right when he got in my car
that we’d be together, plus my disabled son was with me
and he accepted him immediately
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Most people with as much going for them as me, don’t have such issues, *too!
So I feel really abnormal.
No one assumes that when I was 11 my friend pretended he saw my penis and told the whole grade it was small. Went through puberty, realized, well I wasn’t so inedaquate. So I became sz when I was probably 14. My whole high school I was not THERE. I pretended I was black on the internet throughout my whole high school career. Was not THERE mentally. Come college started self medicating. Slept with a girl. She complimented me a lot. That’s when I became a narcissist.
Fast forward a week. Met another girl. Fell in love. Evil chick. She got me into drugs. That’s not why she’s evil. But she is! Then ■■■■■■ up with drugs. Same friend from childhood calls me on the phone and says “your ego!!!” When I was coming off the drugs. And I say “I know!!!” Haven’t been able to look at him the same since he brainwashed me and this caused further psychosis because I didn’t know what the f he meant.
Like ten hospitalizations later I’m doing pretty damn well.
No one wanted to see me do well. So you know what I have to do,tell the whole world to kiss my arse. 
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are you able say I’m sorry to someone
then your’e not a narcissist
Phil’s last woman called him one
and I wonder because he never apologizes.
But I don’t know all the traits, it’s more than just boasting yourself.
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Yes I’m not self centered. But I am into myself. So that’s gotta be some points in the narcissist category.
Like I’m a really nice pleasant person typically.
But
I know I said earlier I think I’m ugly. But that’s not really the case. Honestly used to think I was the best looking male that I know. Sometimes I tell myself “that’s such a narcissist thing to think”. But I don’t outward express it. Maybe everyone has narcissist thoughts and I’m projecting.
But it can’t be a coincidence my main delusions have all been grandiose
i tried on pof and i got what you did @Jonnybegood a wall of silence, it s demoralising but i’m not on there anymore bc i heard more women use tinder now and thats free too, get some views on that at least, i also use zoosk but still not much attention.
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the complaints the guys told me on there
was that women would post pics of them years ago
and then they’d go to meet them, and they look nothing like their pic.
They’d ask me for a current pic once we got on our cell phones
and I always took one that day.
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Think the first step to overcoming something is admitting. But will I ever be able to totally defeat the narcissist thoughts that my brain gravitates to.
I also hear narcissists are charming. I’ve developed some charm last couple years.
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alright, if you say so
also, I think your’e a good looking guy
and your’e talented
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i heard narcissists only talk about themselves and a lot, like there was a guy recently that was really pissing me off and i felt like calling him a narcissist bc he was so annoying, liked the sound of his own voice and didnt listen to no-one even if he was wrong. it was at a conference i was at recently.
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Interesting. I would like to know more about what distinguishes a narcissist. I can never point em out. Don’t even know if I am or not. Honestly I oftentimes think every single person I meet is a narcissist. I label everyone a narcissist if I know them well enough.
When I was 19 I was in class with the girl I was talking about and I said the sentence “it’s all in my head” and she started cracking up harder than anyone I’ve ever seen, at me saying that.
Was assuming she was calling me a delusional narcissist pretty much, although that didn’t register until a couple weeks later when I took drugs. Was tormented by “I’m a narcissist” thought loops for ten hours straight.
Then my other friend said “your ego” as if it was an issue.
Well I’m gonna refrain from labeling myself some more. But I’ve shared a lot in this thread.
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from personal experience talking to you i would say you are definitely not a narcissist, take it as you will 
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