Because probably he/she will have schizophrenia like me. I have text my husband (he is at work right now) asking him if he wants to assume this risk. I want him to think seriously about it. I want to be realistic and rational. I want him to be sure because I’m not totally sure right now. As I said in another thread schizophrenia is not the end of the world, but I’m scared. My life with schizophrenia is ok, but I don’t know if the baby will have a good life.
I’m not pregnant yet. So I still have time to think about it.
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We feel the same …
We are considering adoption
I think I saw @firemonkey
Post something about the likelihood of your child develop autism because the parent is schizophrenia is higher risk…
So that’s another element to consider as well…
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People with schizophrenia are not allowed to adopt here in Spain.
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I’m a man but I still am familiar with this significantly.
Examples are I got no guidance from my folks about informing my BIL and SIL about my “truth”. For the most part I’m proud of what I ultimately did. My BIL came on the scene first and I told him right after the marriage.still they got pregnant right away.
With my brothers girlfriend(my Sister in law now) I told her much earlier in the game.
You get a lot for free in living, And theres a lot of stories which is a buzzing topic now it seems.
technology and progress are also occurring. And frankly this is a “beautiful disorder in so many ways on so many days”.
Still its the hardest decision you’ll probably make… perhaps I should have merely liked your post as acknowledging it. (I always wanted a daughter in the first half of my time on this rock. : ). Wish I could help more.
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@Katherine85, I am sza bipolar type. And I always suffered terribly with depression and psychosis my whole life. My only child developed paranoid sz and he suffered terribly with his psychosis his entire adult life and he ended up taking his own life because he couldn’t handle the psychosis anymore. I would have chosen not to have him if I had known of my sza before I got pregnant.
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I’m so sorry @SkinnyMe.
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@Katherine85 I don’t regret either of my children and one of my children has a disability of sorts. So far no sza. But if it happens we’ll cross that bridge when it comes.
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This is a tough issue for me.
I was told that I could have a child but what if my partner has a mutation in that same gene?
This is something I’m thinking about. I have a rare form of muscular dystrophy but mine is recessive. I just have to consider the risks, be open with my partner, and think about sz, too.
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I wasnt happy when i read an article that said your more likely to be autistic if your parents cos sz. Made me feel guilty for my Daughter.
Ive got a twin - and it doesnt cross his mind, that he could develop it one day.
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Don’t feel guilty @Naarai
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I also have my doubts. My husband is interested in having a baby but I never really felt enthusiastic about having kids.
Plus my pdoc says it’s risky bcuz I have to come off all my meds before i even fall pregnant. And he and a previous pdoc said the stress will be risky too. I could be at risk for post partum psychosis or depression
Not worth it i think… never been eager anyway. But everyone is different and what might not suit me will maybe suit others better. It’s a tough decision
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My bro has a two month old… he got the good genes along with my sis.
I am at home with my Sz. But I really believe I have this developmental coordination disorder… and it’s unfair. I’m awkward big time, and it’s kryptonite to finding a partner.
Sz just gives me a lot to say and there’s solace there a lot of times. Looking peculiar though, that’s waves crashing on me, and It’s under my skin but out of my hands - to quote Tears for fears.
It’s a dice roll for you. You have some time if the “85” denotes anything. My bro was wanting to date a girl with lupus; I told him the same. It’s a dice roll. It didn’t work out but I never forgot that story bc the girl was burdened with when to share that. (She was super honest.) I guess it’s just a human interest story.
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I didn’t mean to omit my thoughts it’s just that it necessitated skills/abilities that I don’t seem to have in spades; to put it gently.
You’d think I’d have finesse on the Internet but maybe I can’t cope with life/death and/or mortality.
There are elderly in my fam and I dread the time I will have to give sympathies… Because my face(and I can’t reconcile this) my face tends to do the wrong thing in sensitive spots.
As for your pain… maybe my broken clock can work here and I’ll be right… Meaning: I want/am tempted to compare with you(and NOT identify), (flying in the face of A.A.) and say your narrative trumps mine on many levels; perhaps all.
A.A. didn’t work for me… and one of the good things about the rigidity of delusions is that, maybe they make us consistent.
For what it’s worth…
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Don’t you worry at all @anon64158233. Your thoughts and feelings are alright with me.
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I don’t have any kids of my own. But I wouldn’t want to give one this. Do you suffer with sz @Katherine85 ? Do you have a good life that you want to pass along. Can you teach it the defense mechanisms that you need to have sz? 50% sure is not enough.
Maybe I was sounding “Pro-kids”. But in a sense that is the choice my family has (mostly) made. I have three nephews and a niece… And last I checked there is a 15% chance for each individual kid to develop this thing.
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I think you should have a baby if you want to be a mom katherine. I just hope you feel well enough to take care of it. I looked it up says if one parent has schizophrenia your chances of developing it go up by 14 percent. If both parents have it you have about a 40 percent chance of getting it. If only you have it and not your husband chances are pretty low that your child will develope it.
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I have talked to my husband and I have decided I’ll keep on trying to get pregnant.
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I would say 'cross that bridge if you come to it.
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