I think about having kids in the near future, maybe in a few years,
But I worry a lot about the fact, that they will (there’s a possibility) have SZ like me. 
and I worry that I will be a bad mom because of my SZ. Maybe sometimes I will act irrationally or unpredictably:/
What’s your opinion?
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What are your thoughts on adoptions? There are lots of children in need of good parents and homes.
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I would love another child and be a Daddy Again, after the disaster of my last relationship.
But im a realist. Im simply not stable enough, i drink too much and smoke weed alot these days. So there is no chance im gonna father another baby.
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It’s not allowed to adopt in my country if you have SZ.
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I’m a big fan of not having children.
Definitely to the point where I won’t be having more.
My only child was adopted at birth by friends.
He was a surprise pregnancy.
Anyway,
I don’t worry about him having SZ.
The odds are low.
And even if he is,
I turned out freaking decent, so can he.
As far as being a parent with SZ, I think that’s more complicated.
Played a factor in not keeping my baby.
But I’ll be real.
Not a huge factor.
It’s a very personal choice and you’ve got loads of time.
Don’t rush yourself.
Having a baby in your 30s, even late 30s is totally normal now.
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Are you in a relationship?
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I hadn’t planned on having a child but not because of SZ, diabetes runs rampant on my side of the family. However, it turns out that I was not as sterile as I was told. So far my daughter has missed out on my heart condition and insulin-dependent diabetes. Also my alcoholism (she has no interest in drinking). No signs of SZ so far, but she is only 21, almost 22. I’m less worried about that as it’s a very manageable disease from my experience. Not pleasant, but one can have a good life in spite of it.
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They say that after 30 you are out of the woods but I was 31 when I had my first psychotic break.
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Yup. I am in a relationship 
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I don’t think I could have been a good parent if I hadn’t had my very stable wife having my back. She is what made the difference. I think a household with two SZ parents is a disaster waiting to happen for most things, especially the poor kid(s).
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I think that if he is trustworthy it should be ok
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Thanks for your answer it made me feel way more positive…
And about SZ, yeah, we also can have meaningful lives sometimes it’s harder than to “normal” people, but still…
Probably my illness shouldn’t stop me from having a child or children.
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I never had children and never will. My younger bros got two girls and a little boy and their lovely. Don’t let anything stop you.
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I was never stable enough to have a child. It would have been irresponsible with the number of hospitalizations I’ve had when I was younger to put a child thru that. I just couldn’t do that to a kid. They would’ve put it in foster care.
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I want kids too and have the same worries.
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Does your other half have sz in their family? If not there’s 10% chance of them getting it that’s it, if your other half’s family does have sz then it jumps to 50% chance but that’s still pretty low!
As for being scared of being a bad mom I think every GOOD mom has that fear no matter if they have an illness or not and it’s kept me from having kids for a few years now… My husband and I are finally talking seriously about having kids and I’m looking into getting off ingrezza so we can have a child
As most people know I had a child while off meds and it went… Awful for me but that doesn’t mean I won’t have better experiences while on meds, I also realize my mistakes and don’t plan on redoing what I know is wrong
We’re scared too but that just means we’ll probably be good parents and the fact we know what can happen and have support means we can reach out if we have problems
@PhotoGuy the above goes for you too and anyone else worried about having kids
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Luckily I’m the only one with schizophrenia in my family.
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@PhotoGuy then as long as your other half has no sz in their family you only have 10% chance of passing it on
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Are u diagnosed with schizophrenia? I coulda sworn u said u werent
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Oficially diagnosed no, but there are information about drugs I am buying. i believe it could be a “stop” for adopting kids.
My english is bad here, what I mean is in the internet I don’t have official diagnosis, but I believe if they wanted, they could get info about hospitalisations and pills I am taking.
In my country you have to be almost with perfect history to adopt.
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