I have a date with a woman

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hello,

I have a date. She very nice but it scares me a little.
I’m scared cause I have old bachelor habits. (here we use to say “old boy”. )
I live alone as a cave bear, at my apartment, with my cat.
I know I haven’t met her yet but i don’t know if i’m ready to date someone.
Just want to meet her and chat, nothing else.
I have a past. (I’m talking about my psychiatric past.) I’m sick of dragging this around like a prison ball.

All this tires me. I almost got used to my lonely life. Am I ready to change this life? I don’t know. :frowning:

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Wow, best of luck @DetunedGuitar ! :four_leaf_clover:

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@everhopeful Thank you…

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I am sure you will do great. Good luck and have fun. :cat2::cat2::cat2:

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@GrayBear Thank you… Hope so.

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That’s great @DetunedGuitar! I hope everything goes well.:blush:

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Thanks @see121.
Actually, what I dread the most is my disappointment, whatever the reason.
That hurts me. I am afraid of suffering because I often suffer from social relationship and romantic relationship. I am a hypersensitive person, so I have very strong emotions.

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I know what you mean about being a hypersensitive person. I used to get very hurt very easily. And more often than not, it would turn into suicidal drama. That was until I hardened into a completely unemotional stone due to meds.

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Thank you… It is true that meds can make us less sensitive. Personally, I am still just as sensitive. :frowning: /

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@Follement , You’re probably not on as many AP’s or on an AD like I am. I take: Risperdal Consta shots, Geodon, Seroquel and Celexa.

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Probably. I just have risperidone as an AP

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Go and meet. Just enjoy the moment. Never know what might happen.

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You are right. I think that’s the main thing to say to myself …

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You never know, it might just work out great. I know this is kinda hard advice for someone with schizophrenia but don’t get too serious or heavy. Keep it light, the idea is for both of you to have fun.

I remember when I was dating. I had to consciously make sure I talked enough as sometimes I don’t talk enough. I had one date who I took to dinner at my sisters house and then we went to a movie. It went fine I guess, but later we were at an ice cream parlor and over a chocolate sundae I said we should move in together, lol. That’s what I mean by getting too heavy, too fast.

Luckily, we were in the same program and we were kind of friends so when I saw her the next day she still talked to me and didn’t make a big deal about it. She complained to a mutual friend I didn’t open the car door for her at the movies but I still got a good night kiss.

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@77nick77 Thanks !
I don’t tend to make up stories in my mind concerning the date. :slight_smile:
It’s just that I don’t trust who I am. And I’m a cave bear…

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Thank you for taking the time to tell me about your story :slight_smile:

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Good wishes to you.

Let us know how your date goes.

Hope you will have a lovely time together.

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I’ve dated alot without much luck. 1. Don’t talk about personal issues until you know the person well. 2. just be yourself and enjoy yourself 3. get to know the other person well

I should not be giving advice about dating since I’ve had no luck. But, I do know it is not wise to divulge about your illness until you have seen the person for over a three months or longer- this may take several dates. I kept my illness to myself and still had problems. So, if you connect with another person after awhile, you can tell her about your illness.

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Good luck, man.
Don’t worry too much

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Good luck. As nick77 points out is probably good advice to keep it light at first, no huge confessions are necessary.

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