i am always afraid that I will wind up with someone out of control with psychosis or something.
I am eager to start a social life but this darn sz reminds me that things can go way way wrong.
what’s your opinion on dating when you have sz?
judy
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I haven’t dated since I was diagnosed. But I dated a lot before I was diagnosed. If your psychiatrist is encouraging you, then maybe give it a go if you feel up to it.
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how do you date?
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I dated after I got stable. It worked out well for me. I got married in August.
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I used to meet people through work for instance. Or friends of friends. The old fashioned way (no dating apps for me!) 
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I have not dated in 26 years, well I had a relationship with an American woman close to 10 years, but the relationship ended in 2000. I am glad. I do not want to date anybody, I like my own private life.
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I’ve never been on a date before.
usually people with schizophrenia tend to stay away from people. so the fact that the pdoc suggested going on a date feels like a very bold social suggestion and possibly a major leap that bypasses getting out of the house, having small talks with family, having small talks with neighbors, slowly engaging in the community, making a real-life friend, etc.
the pdoc was probably just joking.
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even healthy couples have problems so it is well understood that you are nervous,
I hope you will find a way
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Every person is different. Judy is already pretty social.
I think it’s great that your doctor thinks you’re ready to date. It can be scary, but it’s also lots of fun.
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I’ve been on a couple dates since being diagnosed. And a couple dates before diagnosed. Haven’t met anyone I really clicked with. The girls are waaay different on the west then east coast for the most part. I like em better! But haven’t got a full feel for how they operate really yet. There was this young girl who went out of her way to open the door for me the other day and she was just the cutest little thing. Personality and looks wise. I doubt I’ll meet anyone in this quarter because there’s no one in class I connect with really
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I personally think I have a better chance of dating post diagnosed then pre. But then again I was suffering badly from lack of insight pre. The meds help that
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I think dating is a great idea, because I am a soppy romantic.
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so far, her posts in this thread didn’t really directly indicate that, so I made the assumption that she would probably struggle in social situations. my bad.
I know for a fact that my pdoc wouldn’t seriously suggest I go on a date. but everybody’s different, so whatever.
schizophrenia- “a long-term mental disorder of a type involving a breakdown in the relation between thought, emotion, and behavior, leading to faulty perception, inappropriate actions and feelings, withdrawal from reality and personal relationships into fantasy and delusion, and a sense of mental fragmentation.”
what if I don’t want to date? what if I just want drunk sex?
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I don’t tell normals I’m sz, so when they date me they don’t know. I make sure to keep pills hidden.
I’ve had a few dates, one five months relationship, lots of casual sex, but nothing long lasting. The five month guy moved out of state for school so I broke it off.
I’d like to meet a nice, functional sz to settle down with, but my city has a lot of severe chronic szs, at least at the mental health clubhouse.
The way I see it, they don’t need to know so long as don’t have positive symptoms. It doesn’t concern them unless we’re living together.
Maybe you will have better luck ! I’m sure your pdoc believes in you, since he’s encouraging you to venture forth.
Just be leery of dating sites! Meet in public just in case. Good luck!
No one should pick the time when you date other than you. If you are not ready to deal with dating or never want to date in the future you have the right not to do so. If you decide you are willing to give it a try by all means do so, Your pdoc may feel you need socialization which could also be satisfied with friends and family without as much risk as happens with dating.
I think you have mentioned in previous post that you would like to meet someone and maybe move out of your mums and maybe live with guy you meet if you meet someone you like.
I think it sounds great that your dr encourages you to do things that could be positive n good for n to you.
I wish you well whatever you decide to do.
Maybe you will do online dating .
Find what n who feels right for you.
Judy what age range are you in. Just curious? Because Judy is kind of an old school name so I always figured you were older?! But maybe not.
Never did like the dating part. But I was married shortly before I got SZ although my episodes were trying on our marriage we stuck it out and have a very good relationship. Our marriage is as good as anyone’s sometimes I think it’s better than most. My wife has been a key to my recovery. But yah you have to date first I say in my opinion it is worth it. Bonus two boys. Good luck and I must say you must be doing well if your pdoc suggest it.
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I met Angela on POF (plenty of fish).com It worked out well for us…you just have to put up with a lot of dirty men trying to ask for sex but aside from that there are the good men out there for you. you get to read their profile before you contact them and I encourage you to post a pic or two of yourself on your profile. I wish you luck Judy. I care about you.
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