Good luck!
And congratulations!
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best of luck to you on your date! I hope it will go well.
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good luck on your date, @DetunedGuitar. You are braver than I am, haha
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Good luck on your date! I know how nerve wracking it can be as I have also been getting into the dating world myself after a relationship ended BC of my schizophrenia.
You just have to have trust and faith that the person won’t judge you. But I’d definitely say unless you feel completely comfortable around this person and are getting signals that it’s ok to talk about this stuff, just be patient and wait a while. I personally overshare everything so I told my partner pretty early on about it, but my advice for others (that I don’t follow bc I suck) is to give it some time. Like I said, trust is the key thing in a relationship so don’t share until you fully trust them.
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I don’t mean to sound cynical, but it really is a mathematical equation. No matter what happens if you get involved in a realtionship your life will change. That means giving up things you had before to a certain extent, but also you will receive new things you didn’t have before.
If she makes you feel good and you feel overall your life is better although it will be different and you will have to redispose the time used on certain activities, I say go for it.
The sz stuff you tell when you are comfortable. You never know how people react to that, but many have had difficulties of their own, and they might understand it and be more accepting than you anticipate. Best of luck.
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I married a disabled man. After what he went through he was able to accept me and my problems fairly easily. He’s very kind and nonjudgmental. Just enjoy your date and don’t go in with expectations, either good or bad. Just see what happens naturally
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I really appreciate you advices, all.
Thanks @LilyoftheValley @Mr_Hope @bridge @Tulane @lekkerhondje @Wave @NotSeksoEmpirico @Om_Sadasiva @ciaociao1 @SacredNeigh7 .
I certainly will enjoy the meet. Have to take my time, have to take time to better know her.
I haven’t yet met her yet but we spoke on the phone.
She was very comfortable unlike me but that’s ok.
i just felt very intimidated. But that’s ok, i could discuss a little.
I was joking with my texts, it’s a good way to play down.
We will see each other tomorrow…
Let it be.
The risk is that I devalue myself and that I am too shy.
See you next time for new adventures (like we use to say here.)
Good night 
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Bon courage !
1515
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Thanks Andrey !
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My sister told me that men find hard to stomach that a woman does not wish to go further.
For men, this means questioning their own identity. I don’t know what to think about it.
I must say that i dread to be completely blanked.
I really don’t know.
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Its hard to date with sz, I think the majority are single. My gf left me due to sz after 5yrs, she didn’t have any illness so she couldn’t understand. But I also think its bcz my negative symptoms are extreme and I was making her depressed. I stay in bed most of the time everyday since being on meds. Abilify fixed it a bit but caused other serious issues. Try your best and good luck! Be confident.
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Best of everything. Just go with the flow.
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Hi,
I’m back.
The date went very well.
I wasn’t too shy, I acted naturally.
Before the date, I brooded over all kinds of thoughts : but I just told myself that there was no stake. I just had to be myself.
Well, I’m not sure what i want, just wanna chat and get to know her.
Maybe a new friendship, maybe romance. I don’t know.
We’ll see over time.
Thanks all for your kind words.
You’ve been very helpful !
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Awesome. Glad it went well. 
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Thank you @GrayBear you’re nice
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It’s an odd thing… to want something so badly, then all the sudden it becomes a real possibility… then the excitement passes and it seems like living in another dimension a little bit.
I believe they call that “cold feet” old boy.
I totally relate… I’d say it’s worth pushing through. If you can’t face your own nerves how can you expect any potential partners to deal with theirs?
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I’m glad it went well for you.
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Sounds like you’re off to a good start. Do you have a second date planned?
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Hi @77nick77
Yes we will meet again soon, it will depend on her working hours. Apartently she was very ok.
She seemed happy with the afternoon and so did I.
Thank you !
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nice to hear you had good time =)
Hopefully more of it later.
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