I have no job I quit in 2020. All my friends and family have a job. My parents used to tell me they want me to be a Dr and to see my kids. I have neither now. They told my brothers to help me financially after they die, I feel useless without a job. I miss working and studying in university. I am doing good stuff for my health taking my meds and losing weight and exercising, hanging out with my friends etc but a job is more important, I still feel bad and less than my friends and brothers
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When I had a gf she wanted kids but we agreed its not going to happen as we didn’t have enough money I kept quitting jobs as I was psychotic and off meds
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I can relate. I often feel like failure to my family.
I don’t think you’re a failure man.
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I worked full time on 80mg Latuda for the year I was on it, but had positive symptoms like paranoia it was torture I stopped talking to all my friends as I was paranoid and had too many nightmares
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I really think you need to find a way to move away from your family. They seem to just cause you suffering.
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Its not them they are helping me but I can’t work due to sz
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I disagree. Taking care of your health first is more important. Keep doing what you’re doing, and allow yourself to heal over time. Then try getting a job again. Not yet though. You need time to become healthy enough to succeed first.
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Yeah but you say they are unhappy with you for your disability. You feel like you can’t make them happy unless you work, but you feel like you can’t work with SZ.
Either you have to try really hard to build up to some kind of job, or accept that you don’t work due to your illness and that your families expectations are unrealistic and unhelpful.
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I am jealous of my friends and family because they work
Is it possible for you to move out?
After moving out, ive progrressed mentally and feel more ready. If i wasnt doing a degree, id be applying for jobs right now.
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I would be more poor if I moved out and lonely
I am too, but it forces me to work on my mental state
If i was still at home, id be a lot wealthier and not lonely
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There’s another similar thread so I thought I’d copy and paste my answer to that thread in this one, because it’s very relevent, I think. I hope this helps you:
I struggle with thoughts of failure too, but it helps to use analysis to get rid of them. Our society is obsessed with productivity, and is so competitive we’re always thinking we have to be above average. This obsession is like a sickness. There’s always someone more successful.
Take the beauty industry, for example. They do their best to make women feel ugly compared to so-and-so model, and they rake in billions each year. Our culture is also very ageist, treasuring youth like it’s the only important thing.
As a wise person once said, “Comparison is the thief of joy.” Don’t pin your self-worth on the stupid creation that is modern Capitalist society.
Also, I said in another thread that people should try and observe the negative self talk, and when you catch yourself beating yourself up, ask the question, “Would I say this to another ill person?” Try to be your own best friend, because you deserve to be treated with respect, especially, you need to show yourself respect.
P.S. Sorry for another wall of text. 
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Nobody can make you feel like a failure without your permission.
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I understand your feeling of being useless. The terrible fact is that many of us who haven’t achieved anything in life feel the sense of purpuselessnes.
But Aziz you are still a young man and the prognoses es of this illness are like spinning the wheel of fortune. So never give up your dreams. Maybe you’ll achieve them one day.
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You’re not a failure just because you can’t work right now. It’s not your fault you got schizophrenia and can’t work. You still have time to recover and go back to work later if you want to.
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