She always start argument, i do anything she said she wish she never gave birth to me. I think that worse that stealing. Why would you say that.
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That is really hurtful. Are you okay?
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not really that really hurt me inside, how can mother say that.
Its not fair of her to say that. Im sorry that happened to you.
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Yea thanks. Im not going to talk to mother for a while until she forgives me for saying that. I did nothing to her today. I just got a snack. she saying im not doing nothing and not working. Thats not true, i take out the trash, wash the dishes and clean the countertops and clean my room daily.
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I think that’s very cruel, if she said that. You may just have to realize that your mother has an immaturity problem. She’s part of you. All you can do, is try to be understanding and realize she’s not perfect.
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i cant, thats really mess up thing to say. until she takes her word back i wont talk to her.
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My mother called the police on me numerous times - and stood up in crown court - and lied and said i battered her. I had a good lawyer and it got thrown out. Count yourself lucky. I could have done 3 years in nick.
Partly my fault for being a raving psychotic for years - cos the doctors at the time were arseholes and did not medicate me. And seeing an elderly woman - they took it as gospel.
Strangley enough tho - we get on now. So long as its just over the phone. Ive long since said - she has a PD herself.
Best advice i can give - is dont be abusive if she kicks off - and keep your ruddy distance.
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I just said to her thats mess up to say. But thanks for the advice.
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Parents aren’t perfect. They lose their tempers and say stuff they don’t mean. It happens. I have said I wish I’d never had kids.
Yeah where they could hear.
But I get pushed a lot.
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People who are not coping say awful things
My sister once said to me “I hate your soul”
Difficult to get over but the pain stays and it also recedes
They are not at their best
Having children could be the worst stress on earth
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Your mother loves you I’m sure of this @oe1489.
You are probably not easy to live with.
They are keeping you in there house.
This is saying a lot.
Try to get along.
Okay, i bother no body, i stay in my room most of time, i only go out if need a drink or go to the bathroom. I never start arguments. Idk why she said that but it was wrong. Please make me understand why did she said that did she regret giving birth to me.
My mum has said stuff to me all the time In the heat of the moment. I have said stuff and done stuff too. She loves you , but sometimes we don’t always see eye to eye on things. We all do stuff to get on people’s nerves it’s normal.
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alright man thanks, im still mad at here. she did not had to take frustrations on me though.
I know what you mean I tend to take it out on those closest to me. But don’t drag it. Once I stopped talking to my brother because I was immature and don’t even remember why. I didn’t talk to him for 10 years living under the same roof. Not worth it.
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I’m sorry your mom said that. My mom used to say mean things all the time, but we’re close now. Hang in there
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Im not reason your life is not great, im not the problem. I think she has some issues to work on. some serious issues.
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My mum has taken the honesty road
She has said several times that if she had her life over she would not have had children
It’s HARD
And with 3 girls of schizophrenia I think I understand her
Even without many problems it’s as life changing as it gets
She has said this to me out of love
So that I know the consequences if I were to have a child myself
It’s not quite the same thing as your mum said it to you out of anger
Mum has also told me that if she knew what would happen she would have aborted my 2 sisters (they have been more unwell for longer than I and I’ve had a case of schizophrenia worse than the average
Life is the hardest for our mothers
I think it’s harder than being us
They love us so much that they feel every bit of pain we go through and they sometimes think of the care free life they could have had without us
It’s not rocket science but hearing it said in anger must be the worst feeling
Family and friends learn to know how to push buttons. Conflict is inevitable but I’ve said some really twisted stuff over the years and never really meant it. Define yourself with love rather than hate.
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