My grandfather was extremely bigoted and racist. I sometimes don’t know what to do. He died in 1982 but still haunts me to this day. He thought being gay was a mental illness to be treated. When he was in the hospital dying I came in to see him, but he clammed up talking to everyone and didn’t say a word to me. Before I went through puberty, he was like a dad to me as my father wasn’t in the picture and owed my mom child support. There was a despicable politician in the 1920’s that was his hero like Archie Bunker in All In The Family TV show. He took me to a Minstrel show once with guys in blackface when I was really young. I didn’t understand it though. All hell broke loose when I took an African American young lady to an Elton John concert when I was in high school. She said she liked Elton John and asked me to take her. I really went through a lot with him.
He actually sent me to a psychiatrist when I was in high school saying I was a problem child. I was really depressed then. The psychiatrist gave me some pills to take. I don’t remember what. I didn’t realize I was gay until 12th grade, and kept it to myself until I wàs 19 and had a full time job at a bank.
First not sure why that wouldn’t be allowed you’re not saying you believe that way or anything. I’m sorry all of that happened to you it sounds pretty bad
I understand how you feel i have family members who refuse to accept i have schizophrenia but think im a drug addict and treat me like one
I can sympathize with gay people who went through “Conversion Therapy”. There was a movie Boy Erased about this.
I had a major psychosis around race because of a family member like that - at least it’s in part because of her awfulness.
I had the delusion people thought I was racist - like I’ve heard of the delusion (my sister had it) that people thought she was a pedophile
was scary in the extreme to me
Conversion Therapy is were they make gay people straight. I think it was done through the 1990’s.
Your very strong and brave to stand for who you are and not “obey” your grandfather and his ways but be gay and stand for that.
Well done for being you.
Specially with such a history.
Thanks for the support @Truemist8 I very much appreciate it. The guy in the movie Boy Erased lived in Arkansas and the conversion therapy was done in Memphis Tennessee if I remember correctly.
It’s like everybody was talking about me dating a black woman (high school student) because I took her out on a date. We were just friends though. I wasn’t romantically interested in women in high school. I really liked men but didn’t know it.
Dude my parents were very similar only they didnt believe in therapy. Sorry you went through that. Im trans and gay and date people of all races and they hate it
That sounds awful @anon54988740 and sorry you had to go through that experience.
It’s a slippery slope when people start pathologizing normal human behavior simply because it’s foreign to them, or they have a moral superiority complex.
I too got sent to shrinks and family therapy for my “problem child” behavior. Granted, I was not always the easiest kid to parent, but I am not and never have been a person who follows rules without a solid reason to.
I dunno, I’m probs just an assh0le in that respect.
But yea, it’s pretty damaging to be told you have mental issues when you’re simply loving another person of the same sex or standing up for what you think is right.
I didn’t come out until I was 25. I lived in a rough ex-mining village. My foster Dad was a homophobe and racist which on the suffice my foster mother and father acted respectable but were brutes, only cared about the money. I hated my later teenage years.
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