I know why, but I don’t understand how I still feel this way after working so hard on it. I don’t know how to change this way of thinking for good
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I’m sorry. I know the feeling. I’ve been so used and abused I feel like damaged goods that if anybody truly knew everything that has happened to me they wouldn’t even want me near them let alone that they could love me.
I think all we can do is act as though we believe we can be loved and over time as we’re treated well by someone over time we’ll maybe someday truly believe it
I also think it’s easier to believe we can be loved by a specific person after time spent with them than it is to have a general belief that people can love us.
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Idk what to tell ya. I mean, even shitty people deserve love. We’re all only human after all.
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It’s the trauma babyyy
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I definitely feel you!!! Some time I feel like a bag of dirt 
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Do you want to be loved? Sometimes it’s easier to feel unworthy of love than to feel unloved. It can be a coping mechanism to justify your current predicament.
Is this a romantic love thing where you don’t feel like you could be a good prospective partner or a general sense that you don’t deserve other people caring for you?
You need to understand that you are a conscious being and that is enough for making loving you a good thing.
I know I had similar feelings at some point but then I realized I wanted to love me and I wanted to love other people, or somebody if we are talking romantically. I think loving somebody is not just a gift, it’s a privilege and you are unworthy of denying this privilege to others more than you’ll ever be unworthy of love yourself.
Allowing others to love you is a gift in itself. I know it feels backwards because nobody has ever told you this but think of it. When you are alone and unable to connect with others you often don’t look back longingly at something others did for you but at something you did for others. At the very least you want more of both. Remember that.
Give others a chance to love you. You don’t need to do It for yourself. Do it for them, the poor sobs are missing out 
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My Abilify reduces my emotions, so I don’t feel anything close to love. If anyone loves me, I can’t return it. Everything feels pointless right now. I’m getting therapy, so I’ll be trying to get out of my comfort zone.
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I have built such a wall around me that I’m definitely afraid to let anyone close to love me. Probably not the best way to live.
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