Hello! I feel as if I can’t do anything in the way I should because I constantly feel scared from the people around me. I’m 25 years old female. I live with my parents. I’m currently trying to freelance from my laptop (as a web designer). The problem is that my parents and my sister are used to knowing all of what I do. I always need to tell them everything. I just really can’t stand this. Every time when I tell them that I’ve made some money they need to know how much I’ve made and they always question my skills and what I do. And it’s not only this. I recently started a diet because I have more than 10kgs to lose. It’s like I wanna lose the weight and I know that I can lose it but I just lack motivation and I think that I just eat more because I’m depressed and all of what they say irritates me. I hate when I get comments on my weight and what I eat. It’s like whatever I do needs to be commented on by them. I feel so scared because I know that I wouldn’t succeed to do everything on my own if I stop speaking to them. I have always been dreaming to just live alone , have a job and not see them all the time but I seriously wonder if this will ever happen. I also need to say my father still treats me as if I’m a child. Today he said he will take my headphones if I don’t stop listening to music. I never even try to reply to his words because I feel he may just slap me in the face or even beat me if he gets pissed. I just wanted to share this because It’s constantly on my mind and I can’t get myself to do anything because I’m just scared and I lack motivation.
Omg my oldest child is only 2 years younger than you. You’re an adult. Do you have to live with your parents? Sounds like your dad is abusive. Do you have a psychiatrist?
Yes, I need to live with them until I make enough money to move out. I currently don’t have a psychiatrist.
I have at least 30kg to lose
Sounds like you are having a tough time. I think for most it’s quite natural to want their own place at a certain age. I moved out when I got drafted by the army when I was 19, I never really moved back with parents full time after that. But there were bouts that I had to move back and it was unpleasant because they always interfered with what I was doing and I kind of became a part of their agenda instead of having my own.
Don’t give up hope about moving out. You sound like a person that can make it when you are already making money on your own.
Best of luck
@emotions. Actually 10 kgs isn’t a massive amount to lose. You might do ok with that. I have at least 50 kgs (100 pounds) to lose.
that’s a difficult situation. it’s hard when your family isn’t helping things and makes things worse. It’s great that you found a way to make money freelancing on your own! I think that shows you have some motivation although it may not be as much as you would want. Does anything make you feel more motivated?
It’s hard to get myself to do things too. Fear has been a major part of keeping me from changing my situation even though I’m not happy in it. I’d like to move to a new city, but my family has been a support although not the best but I’m scared to be completely on my own. Also, finding and keeping a job has been hard for me. It’s a risk, and risks are scary. But if you do go on your own, think of all the good things of having your own space. maybe that can help mitigate some of the fear and lack of motivation
I feel this way (scared) about doing my drivers test and about going to dentist. I put it off because I’m not motivated enough and I’m scared. I’m stuck. My avolition is hard to live with. I can barely clean the house properly let alone paint pictures or write my books
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