I have probably posted about this before, but I don’t remember.
I have a big problem understanding what people say. I hear the sounds they make, and I understand the language, but it takes my brain forever to process the sounds from random gibberish into actualy words.
It feels like dyslexia or something, but for spoken instead of written words.
It frustrates me because I feel dumb, and it frustrates other people because I keep having to ask them to repeat themselves, and because it takes me a long while to respond due to replaying what they said in my head until the words make sense.
I feel like it’s become worse recently.
Is there a way for me to train this and minimize my response-time?
This is normal. A least for us. I find I get better at this as time passes. I find the problem for me is I’m havi a conversation with my voice in my head at the same time or they are commenting at my thoughts. Plus I am afraid of the person I am taking to, to send me thoughts or hear my thoughts. So that leaves me in an awkward and nervous state which also make the situation worse.
The better I know the person the less problems I have unless I have really angry at the voice and it is harassing me at the same time.
I find the more you go out and experience the world and be more social the more it helps. The problem with this is a lot of us have fear of being around people.
The other thing that helps me is being completely myself even if it makes me feel a bit like an ■■■■■■■ or weird (due to fear others hear my thoughts). This doesn’t always work as sometimes I feel people will start speaking in code directed at me to prevent me from focusing. But I think this is just paranoia kicking in.
Maybe you’re on the austism spectrum. Try taking a few online tests to see. You could always tell your medical team about this maybe they can get you someone who can help like a speech/language therapist.
I know you can speak a few languages though. What’s it like in your native language?
It’s the same in my native language.
My friend will say something to me, and I’ll either ask him what he just said, or just sit silently for three seconds because I’m trying to process the sounds into understandable words. Sometimes my brain gets it wrong, so I ask him “Did you just say A?” when he said B, and so on.
Communication problems are soooo common among normies, too. Causes a lot of arguing or, worse yet, silence. Just keep plugging and, if you don’t understand someone, say so.
I just feel so dumb when I have to tell people I don’t understand them, and I can tell they get frustrated with me because they’re being as clear as they can.
People’s word choices are often something other’s aren’t familiar with. Yes, it is frustrating to both the speaker and the listener. Again, I encourage you to educate your feelings about being dumb. Have you ever tried finding a different word that says the same thing. Good night means See ya later means So long means Good bye, etc. to make an obvious example.
But that’s the thing, even when I’m talking someone whose word choices I’m familiar with, I can’t always seem to make sense of what they’re saying.
It’s like something goes wrong when my brain tries to process it.
And I’m insisting that happens to normies all the time. The provider and I often have tense moments when we do not understand each other. We just has to keep at it. Keep the lines of communication open, especially when there is trouble.
