My boyfriend smoked crack a couple of times in the winter. Totally decieved me, lied about where he was going. He’s older than me and in college. He attempted suicide multiple times this winter. He was almost dead. The person that brought him back and saved his life was me. The one that got him into crack was his cousin. He’s been off that since February. On Valentine’s day I had a bottle of coffee spilled over my head because he said I was giving up on him.
Now his cousin had charges on him to go to jail and my boyfriend bailed him out. I found this out and he said he takes opiates because of me. He can’t handle my crazy delusions and toxcity of our relationship. He said I would end up in a home if I went back with my mom. I don’t know how to make all this go away. I hate that he takes Percocet at least twice a week. I used to be fine with it, but its draining me. Now his cousin is back in the picture. He says I draining him with my problems always
No it was a caramel McAfee iced coffee. My coat still smells from all those months ago. I was trying to get my clothes out of the drawers in the closet to leave and he freaked out
I’m not going to support staying in such a relationship. The guy is abusive. I don’t know if you are to him, as well. Doesn’t matter if you say you aren’t, we don’t see in person so for all we know you are abusing each other.
But he IS doing and saying abusive things. You CAN leave, you just refuse. That is YOUR problem. Knowing someone is abusive but refusing to leave is stupid. I know because I it for 7 years.
My ex told me I couldn’t find better than him. That I could never make it on my own. I believed that crap. Well, let me tell you the crap that comes out of an abusers dirty mouthhole is lies. Every negative thing about you is a lie.
There are battered women shelters so you can’t say you have nowhere. Those places will help you get on your feet and have links to other places to help women get their lives back.
And you aren’t in love with him. You’re in love with the lie he pretends to be sometimes. It hurts but you get over it. Then you learn to live again. 3 years after I left my ex I stopped in my tracks because it hit me, I was paying for my apartment, paying the bills, driving my own car, and married to a far better man. Everything my ex said was bullsh!t and I was doing it all, everything he said I couldn’t. You can, too.
You can do it too. Don’t stay in it because from this moment on you are choosing to be abused. You now knowit IS abuse. You deserve more. And happiness IS outthere.
Drug abuse ruins lives and relationships. You can do better. If he wanted to make it work, he’d quit and it would be a healthy relationship, and he wouldn’t lie to you.
I don’t want to sound like I’m judging you, but you sound co-dependent to me. One definition of co-dependency is “being dependent on having someone dependent on you.” I knew this guy in an AA program who had married a woman in Al-anon. He said, “I’m always going to pair up with a co-dependent woman, but now I’m pairing up with a co-dependent woman who is recovering.” Maybe you could find a better, healthier relationship with someone in Nar-anon. (Nar-anon is the Narcotics Anonymous version of Al-anon.)
You guys don’t know how I have a 16 yr olds mentality. This illness robbed me of my brain. I isolate and I don’t fit in with society. My 8 yr old second cousin is smarter than me. And it’s a very sad situation when I talk to kids because it’s creepy I act too much like a kid myself. I have abandonedment issues and a traumatic childhood