I cannot leave him if he doesn't want to marry

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one of my colleagues would tell me i should leave my partner if he doesn’t propose over the next two years…i should find someone else… as he is using me … but what for?

The last guy I dated would say I needed to change my appearance… and then he’d tell me he’s only saying that so that I feel better about myself…

But my partner is just someone else… never tells me how to dress or to wear make up or to lose weight…never forces things … i mean barely have sex but hes still here after two years … also never tells me I shouldn’t do something… gives his opinions if I ask but ultimately does not push things … never gets angry when I talk about what’s bothering me or my mental health and accepts my weirdness and does not make me feel I’m crazy… ok maybe he says I’m crazy but not in a mean way …

So he doesnt see what marrage will add … but we all have differences right? We just got to work through them… i guess what I’m saying is… i want marriage but I’d rather be with him marriage or not

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I don’t think marriage is imperative to a healthy relationship. As long as you love each other and have a functioning thing going

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I agree with @spiderpig marriage is not really important. You can still live together. Grow old together and have kids if you want.

I’m engaged and we are planning a child now. But honesty I couldn’t care less if we never marry. I know we will be together forever anyway.

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Maybe the guy doesn’t believe in marriage. Maybe he has seen failed marriages (his own parents, or close relatives) or he counts himself among those who believe that marriage is a contract and has got nothing to do with love.

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My x boyfriend was the best partner but he did not believe in marriage but we lived together for 21/2 years happily.

He never got angry either and felt so stable.

I would have spent the rest of my life with him but left because I wanted to go vegan and my horse needed a better home and we never had sex the no sex I could live without though as he was so lovely a man .

My current partner does believe in marriage.
We have sex but he has such a temper and gets angry for no reason I wonder how such a marriage would or could work.

I love :two_hearts: the idea of sacred union and romance but you don’t need marriage to have that.

I wanted to marry too but maybe one can do a spiritual ritual.

I think I rather do a spiritual marriage with my partner and then you don’t have the drama of beauracracy.

I wanted to marry my partner since our first kiss and he makes me laugh but he has a temper and will he be faithful to me.

I think I might rather a romantic ritual.

Maybe you can say romantic words of commitment to each other without the paperwork?

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Definitely the last bit and I see his point … i want to be with him even if we never marry so i made my choice …

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thats a good point actually… doesn’t have to involve a contract or paperwork

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What you want means something.

Why doesn’t he want to marry you?

I don’t get it?

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I dont know i just know how he treats me… this one thing though I don’t understand it myself

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he’s not said never but he doesn’t feel its the right time

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Communicate this with him and find out the real reason.
You have the right to know @anon80629714

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I think part of the problem lies in the fact I said i would want a prenup earlier on… ive spoken to him but I always feel confused

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You have the right to a prenup.
It’s a smart move

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A prenup isn’t just going to protect me , its a two way thing… i don’t even think I have as much as he does but that’s besides the point… thr point is realistically if things do go wrong we will both be ok

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I get it…Im overweight…I bet I would be happier with my filipina ex if we could lose weight together

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