I can no longer tolerate drama

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When I was younger I could tolerate a good amount of drama family and relationships threw at me.
Today I have very little tolerance towards any kind of drama, especially family drama.

Yeah my family seems to thrive in turmoil and dramatic scenarios.

I’m too old and sick, physically and mentally for this crap!

My father loves to raise his voice and is always creating drama.

And I’m always walking on eggshells around my brother - he’s a walking ticking time bomb ready to explode in anger at anyone who has a different opinion than his.

I’ve learnt to keep my mouth shut, not supplying them with ammo.

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My patience is running slightly thin with regards to family drama at the moment too. I understand what you’re saying.

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I felt a lot better when I got out from my dad’s house. What are the housing options in your area?

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No I’m not about to move out.
My father is not perfect but he’s been there for me all my life.

He’s always been like this but he’s not abusive.

He’s just very old and now I’m his caregiver.

I’d never abandon him.

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I stopped talking to my sister in May, 2021, specifically because she loves to cause drama, she’s manipulative, and shes abusive. AND, I stopped talking to my maternal grandfather (Mom’s Dad), in November, 2016, for the same reasons, but he was also a racist, xenophobic, misogynistic, sexist, and perverted.

If you can cut some toxic people out of your life, it may help with your stress levels. Ever since cutting these two people out of my life, I am enjoying life soooo much more.

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Unfortunately although they are unintentionally toxic, I can’t cut them out completely but I’ve learned to minimize the amount of time I spend with my brother.

My therapist unofficially “diagnosed” my brother with narcissistic tendencies and borderline personality disorder traits.

He’s a mess.

I’ve just learned to stay away from his cross fire.

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My mother is the same. I do my best to not let her ■■■■ bother me anymore. No easy feat.

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One of my brothers is the same.

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But you don’t avoid her completely, right @Pandy?

Do you live with your Mom?

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My mom is like this. Then she totally plays the victim.

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@Wave & @Pandy

My sister, one of my brothers, and my maternal grandfather are all undiagnosed and untreated borderline. They love stirring up trouble and making everyone around them feel like ■■■■.

I’m sorry you’ve got that in your families, too.

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I don’t live with my mom, @Wave. I live 10 minutes from her. I’m forced to have a relationship with her because I adore my dad, and for some reason that I do not understand, he is still married to her.

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I’m sorry for you @Pandy @Blossom @Aziz @everhopeful @Jinx

It’s never easy dealing with toxic family members.

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This is a pretty bad diagnosis, are you sure they are that?

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If you met my sister and spent only one hour with her, you wouldn’t question it.

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I always thought of borderline as just kind of ragey, impulsive, violent, unpredictable or just plain mad. Like why do you think these people havent contacted mental health services?

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In my family’s case, they also have psychotic disorders (mostly schizoaffective) and they are not med compliant. So, they are all extremely delusional. They think that they are totally fine. If you try to tell them that they are sick, they get violent.

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It is VERY common for borderlines to avoid treatment. They rarely seek it out.

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Oh Wave there is nothing worse than a narcissistic family member. I am in a similar situation to yourself living with an elderly narcissistic father. I spend all of my time in my room only coming out to eat or to go out with my Support Worker. Staying in my room and avoiding him is the only way to keep my sanity.

They are so dangerous to be around, they twist everything you say and every word that comes out of their mouth is a lie lie lie.

I have been watching a lot of YouTube videos on living with Narcissists and the advice that is given is to run a mile from them and go no contact I can’t run at the moment so I just hide in my room to remove myself from the situation as much as possible.

I fear that when your father goes your brother will up the ante and make your life even more of a hell on earth. Please look at the many YouTube videos and arm yourself with knowledge.

Take good care of your mental health.

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My ex wife had borderline.
She was extremely abusive towards me.

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