Ok so I lost my temper which is rare and it isn’t an excuse but I did. I kinda feel bad now .
The man was refusing to leave my house. My aunt is at my house to get away from him and every few days for the past 3 months he comes here to try and get us to persuade my aunt to go back to him. My aunt doesn’t want anything to do with him. So I told him to leave. He said no I won’t. So I said I’ll call the police. So he said call them we will discuss it out with them. So I did. And then he left while I was on phone to them. He called me mental so I called him a “mental” words back.
The problem is my mum said a few words to him so he will come to our house when she’s not there. Cos he thinks I’m “shy” and “quiet” and I don’t say anything. I don’t think he’ll be calling me shy ever again.
My aunt is here to look after her mum but he doesn’t want that . he says there is enough people to look after her and keeps saying “what about me?”. wants to see reports of my grandmothers condition because im not sure he believes us. quite frankly its none of his business.
On top of this when he comes over he keeps asking what they gonna do about the tumour when my grandmother is a dementia patient and doesn’t fully always know and understand what’s going on with her.
This guy sounds like a real dickhead. You did the right thing though by calling the police. That’s what cops are there for anyways. To keep public order and to throw away the trash.
I don’t care what he calls me but I learned my lesson. He knows my gran has a tumour but he doesn’t know it’s cancer. Now whenever he comes here he keeps mentioning the word tumour in front of my grandmother causing her anxiety cos she has dementia on top of everything. So she keeps getting reminded by him. He wants all her medical reports. We said sure you can take over once you take her to your house but he doesn’t want to do that.
What you did was necessary. He was so sure you wouldn’t stand up for yourself. Now he knows better. Some people don’t learn to respect boundaries until they face consequences, and they know how to leverage social norms to try to push people into acting how they want. Just remember that any insults he gives are just his was of expressing anger that you didn’t let him waltz on in to bully your aunt.
I feel bad I called him a narcassist but that’s not my place but in the heat of the moment I said it cos he was trying to insult me I wish I didn’t do that though
