It was very casual because we were already friends beforehand. Our mutual friend, who introduced us in the first place, has been trying to set us up for ages and was going to go to an amusement park with us but then dropped out last second. So both of us went with it and were like ok well we’ll see where this goes. I was very excited because as some of you may know dating is like a HUGE step for me and one I’ve been too terrified to take for years. (It helped I already knew him and we’d hung out in a group before, I knew he was “safe”)
But unfortunately I just don’t think there was chemistry. We get along fine as friends but we don’t have many similar interests, and both have very mellow laid back personalities. When we’re with our other friends who are much more snappy and wild it balances out well but with just the two of us it’s sort of boring. So yeah, date fail. Oh well.
summary: I actually went on a DATE huge step for me (though it was sort of forced by a mutual friend of me and the guy) but there was no chemistry between me and him so
I’m actually more disappointed then I said I’m trying to be positive about it but I’m massively disappointed. A relationship would be amazing for me. I want a relationship. He was my best chance for one. When I left the date the demons basically mocked me saying like “see? Humans can’t compare” and like how they knew it would fail and just being annoying. I was pretty dang bummed.
@Anna This is a nice experience. Based on my dating and marriage experience I would say chemistry fools people most of the times. I dated a lot of guys before I met my husband. Those guys I had chemistry with disappointed me after having dated for a while. I could not get along with them. Then I met my husband. I did not feel the chemistry at first but he turned out to be my best friend. And when time passed by there was a chemistry of romance grew out of our friendship. So we got married and this marriage is proved by time to be a good marriage.
Interesting, thanks for sharing with me that makes me feel a bit better. We’re definitely going to see each other again because we’re in the same friend group so who knows. He is a very sweet guy and my friend (our mutual friend) who has sza as well once texted him in the middle of a psychotic break and he came and helped her through it so I really respect that about him.
I agree with @green5 - don’t base potential relationships on one experience. I met my partner on the internet (not a dating site, just a site where you stated your interests and goals). We started off as friends and then about 6 months later we decided to be something more. Fast forward to now 11 years later we’re still together. I didn’t have any chemistry with him to begin with but i grew to love him for who he was. Too many people think of relationships in the Disney sense - love at first sight and they lived happily ever after. In the real world, it very rarely works like this. So stay positive @Anna, there is still hope for you.
You never know with people @Anna. I didn’t have any chemistry with myboyfriend when I first met him either. But I fell in love with him two years later, so, I married him. Well he turned out to be an outrageous wife rapist and wife beater, so I had to divorce him.
Of course you know there going to be negative some how even if the date turned out to be ok. Just take it in stride you went out and had a pretty good time. A relationship will come in time. Just keep being yourself and things eventually will change… unless your like picky hahah im just playing just keep playing the fields
I’m glad you were brave and got yourself out there. Give yourself credit for that, you faced your own challenge. You will have that spark with someone one day, your young. It sounds very corny but keep working on being someone YOU love, it will make loving another so much easier.
If you really want to be in a relationship, keep putting yourself out there. Just because it didn’t work doesn’t men no one ever will. People often date many people, lots of people, before they find one that works. Keep trying!
