How to not lie to psychiatrists and other professionals?

I have this problem that whenever i sit down to talk to my psychiatrist or therapist or whatever mental health professional im seeing at the time, i never talk about whats actually bothering me. whenever there is weird or strange stuff happening to me i never talk to them about it because i dont trust them and think they will do something to me, or just because i know how this kind of stuff sounds to other people and i fear what they will say back to me. it has gotten to the point where it feels like whenever i go to see them, i physically cant talk about any of the stuff thats actually happening to me. its like im possessed, like some force is preventing me from talking about this stuff. i dont know how to stop this. my boyfriend says its preventing me from getting the help i need. does anyone have a similar problem with lying to their psychiatrist? how do you start to open up and tell them the truth about whats going on with you? will they even care or want to hear about it? thank you for reading, this is my first post and i hope its not too out of place

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Try writing down stuffs thats goin on and showing it to the doc… They will care and be able to help… Start with a small detail and see there reaction that way u can build trust not just expecting it to be there…

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I told my therapist about some delusions a few years ago. He told me to stop talking nonsense. It was kind of a relief because I personally don’t like talking about schizophrenia with therapists or psychiatrists. It’s just the way I am because I never have and I don’t feel the need to.

That said: I went in my first psyche ward at age 19 because I had a cute therapist before I got diagnosed and we just talked about trivial things but I never told her that I was secretively going crazy. I never told her what was really going on with me and she had no clue that I was seriously, seriously screwed up. I was a great actor and I just liked going in and looking at her and talked about anything but my real problems with her. Incidentally, I once told her I wanted to have sex with her, lol. (I was 19) It surprised her but she handled it appropriately, and calmly and didn’t get mad and she steered the conversation in a new direction, lol. But yeah, not telling my real problems got me admitted to a psyche ward.

I still personally at this point don’t feel the need to talk to my psychiatrist about delusions or schizophrenia. I talk about my job or how I’m feeling or getting along with people. We have to talk about medication occasionally, there’s no way of getting around that.

If you think you are heading for trouble with your illness and you think it’s going to be detrimental to your mental health if you don’t tell your shrink then plan out what you’re going to say and how much you are going to reveal. If you feel that hiding your delusions or hallucinations are going to put you in the hospital than by all means open up and tell the guy what you’re going through.
Approach it cautiously and add a disclaimer like maybe, " Hey doc, this is going to sound really crazy but if I don’ tell someone this then it’s going to cause me huge problems with my mental health". Maybe qualify the delusion by saying, " Doc, I’m kind of embarrassed about this but I have a few delusions and hallucinations but I don’t want to be embarrassed or laughed at if I tell you".

If you approach it in this manner I think it will help him understand where you’re coming from and he might be more empathetic and sensitive to your situation. He already knows you have schizophrenia and since he went to school for years and studied schizophrenia at one point he should be aware that delusions and hallucinations are part of schizophrenia and thus if you approach it right, he will understand.

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Thank you, this is really helpful advice…i will try this…writing it down and showing it to the doctor seems a lot easier then just telling them outright

Thanks for the reply…adding a disclaimer sounds like it would help a lot. I guess i just have trouble breaching the subject, like how does one go about just telling someone this crazy stuff thats happening to you? but a disclaimer sounds like it would help

I have the same issue. Ill spend the morning in the garage with the blinds shut and talk to the errants and then when i crash into the psychs office i’m doing better than i ever have in fact and i try contextualize my struggles to make it easy to understand for a “normie” that does nothing but prescribe expensive ads. IM DOING SWIMMINGLY DOC then its home to rot

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Think of a sheet of like sticky bug-killin paper or something. As soon as youre calm enough to, write the symptom or whatevers bothering you down. After a few months, youll have yourself summed up nice and suffering and diagnosable for the layhuman. On the other side, make a general but light personal mental health timeline for a lil history. I titled mine woe roster and im planning on bringing it to a new doctor for a fresh start. I like ur profile pic btw

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Thanks for the advice, i totally relate to what your saying…its like once you step into the doctors office everythings just fine. its so weird. i really should be writing stuff down…the timeline is a good idea too. always good idea to give them more context i guess. i hope ur visit with a new doctor goes well. thank u! i like urs too :slight_smile:

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Yeah I have the exact same problem and am stuck as to how to overcome this as well. To be honest I felt much safer disclosing when I lived in a state that did not allow forced hospitalization unless there was good evidence you were a danger to yourself or others. Now that I am in a state where prescribers can send me to the hospital at their own discretion for whatever (sure only for a max of 48 hrs but you get put on trial for your mental health to see if you have to stay longer basically) I am much more hesitant to be honest about my experiences.

My advice - take someone to your appointments. Your boy friend sounds like your advocate.

Before I started taking someone my appointments were <10 mins. Now they last nearly an hour.

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My problem is not being able to open up a lot of the time because of a past history of abusively being labelled “awkward,demanding and troublesome” for seeking more help and support. When asked how I am I’ll often give a vague “So so” or " Not too bad"

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