I’m seeing her everyday, which is not good for me. I also sometimes dream about her.
I’ve decided, since she’s kinda mean to me sometimes (and sometimes nice tho), that I value myself more and I won’t be friendly with her anymore. Just the usual quick hi or bye. I don’t even value her as a friend anymore.
I’m tired of beeing always nice while she’s mean sometimes. It’s affecting my self esteem in a major way.
As @Zoe recommended me, I’ll actively continue looking for someone, even if she doesn’t fulfill me that much at the beginning.
If your expectations are different than hers, consider disengaging contact altogether to the extent possible.
I will say that your repeated posts about this woman are bordering on obsessive and seem unhealthy TBH. It’s possible she is picking up on this and is trying to discourage unwanted attention from you. Sorry to be blunt, but I really think you need to move on from this or you could risk other problems at school.
I’m just telling you that I want to disengage all contact possible, but I need to see her (and sometimes work with her) everyday. We are school mates after all.
About borderline obsessive idk about that. I just felt something, tried to make it work. Didn’t work, tried to be friends and it’s not working so I’m just ignoring her?
Don’t you think you’re trying to accuse me of more serious stuff?
Honest question @Moonbeam what do you think I was doing, other that beeing nice and trying to engage in conversation 3 or 4 times without success? Do you think it was weird?
She has some sort of strange personality. I feel she’s beeing mean tbh. She’s not trying to distance herself imo. And she’s sometimes nice.
But I guess we won’t know, cuz I started to be distant as ■■■■. Still think about her, but I just don’t want to be nice to someone like that. Just that.
Good point @Zoe . I just think I have the experience to know when someone is kind of mean and when some1 just wants some distance.
I won’t put specific examples, but there are ways of saying stuff that are nice and not nice.
You may have a M.I. problem. Trust me, I’m aware of that and I’m pretty comprehensible with it. I also can stand a lot of ■■■■ if there are good intentions after all. But I’m just saying yhat I don’t want anything to do with her.
That’s a good question. I’m basing my.opinion solely on your repeated threads about this woman on the forum and my perception of what seems like an obsessive and unhealthy quality to these posts. I have no knowledge of what you are doing IRL.
With that said, based on your posts, it sounds like this woman is not receptive to you. So, you need to move on.
Whether at school or at work, you need to be able to maintain professional interactions with others regardless of how you feel about the person.
I know it’s easier said than done, but do try to immerse yourself into school more. At the end of the day, that’s the main priority at present.
Honestly man. I can relate, it’s hard to turn off feelings like that. But mixed signals are always a sign of disapproval of the relationship. You’ll have to be courageous about being cordial. Don’t give her a hard time (not that you will) but also don’t be hard on yourself.
I posted the whole first week when I met her. I stopped posting altogether for 1 or 2 months. Because I was busy.
Now I’m saying that I’m ignoring her, but it’s difficult for me to get over her. Which is basically how I’ve been feeling since I posted for the last time.
Is this an “unhealthy and obsessive” way of posting?
Do you think you may have some sort of bias in this situation? You cannot stop repeating unhealthy, borderline obsessive and other stuff (since the first post I made when I met her) that may be “borderline offensive” to me.
