I want to be more assertive and confident in person. The gentleman who can look after himself instead of the nice victim that is codependent.
Idk how to develop character traits like assertiveness and other leadership based traits. Is it completely futile? I wasn’t always like this. I used to have a sene of humour and healthy levels of assertiveness.
The main goal is to be able to independently able to stand my own in a relationship. Because at the moment I’m the nice guy who gets cheated by others and it’s becoming too common for me in recent experiences
Sometimes you have to push through your own limits. Realize your worth as a person (which at certain moments in life isn’t easy for anyone — maybe you’re going through such a phase right now).
Make time for your hobbies, for yourself, for building your self-confidence.
And just so you know… I like your sincerity and friendliness. These are very valuable, beautiful qualities. Learn to love them too.
I feel the same. I can be very direct at times by nature. I’m learning to say what I think gently, without causing offense.
Even if we sometimes suffer because of having one of the best qualities — it doesn’t change the fact that it is one of the best qualities a person can have. @anon54334749
Thank you for the words, it picks me up. @anon92236671
@everhopeful I’m gonna rummage through my bookshelf to see what I have on psychological training , thank you for the suggestion - I didn’t think of reading
