Feeling very week for ages.
Week in a sense that i’m not upright person with moral fibre. How to achieve personality with integrity, good reputation and stature?
Simply put, I have no spine!
If you have no spine, maybe a good place to start would be assertiveness training? This will help you to portray who you really are at all times - being honest with your emotions and feelings.
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Character is not important. You have good character better work on something serious
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Suffering builds character I guess. Or ■■■■■ you up completely basically.
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I think it’s an admirable goal to want to improve as a person. Where are the areas where you struggle? I think this is one of those things where you do things that prove you are what you want to be. Maybe you can start with working volunteer someplace? Even if it’s once a month or once a week at a soup kitchen or animal shelter. The proof is in the pudding, really.
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I may have a character, but it’s a weak one.
Assertiveness sounds great for me. I’ll practice somehow this list:
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Thank you @Coldcomfort, you are truly comforting 
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Assertiveness is good, just be careful that your assertiveness doesn’t verge on aggression/rudeness. Sometimes it’s easy for the line between those traits to blur.
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I completely thought assertiveness meant accommodation.
Proves how poor my English skills are
You need to make it bold. Sorry to hear. I am feeling weak too. I guess some think that I am making the things on myself the way they are, but I really can not make it otherwise. They just do not understand.
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This almost made me cry. Thank you!
I am not bold, i need to become bold.
read through my blog (in progress). i’m certificated as a mental health rehabilitation specialist. lots of good stuff to get you going:
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It’s not even just being more bold, you need to be more blunt with people. Just say it how it is, moreso you need to speak what’s on your mind, rather than ignoring or burying thoughts. One may call this improving your self worth, or confidence maybe? Or just trying to change the way that you perceive yourself. Rather than thinking negative thoughts, insert positive thoughts when you feel bad about things, or certain situations.
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I have this book and have to keep going back to it and re-reading it:
Note: While I am aware that this author is controversial to some, this book is not at all political. It is a serious essay on self-improvement from a practicing clinical psychologist. As with everything else I recommend inside 12 Step programs and outside of them, my advice remains thus: Take what you need and leave the rest.
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Integrity and strong morals. Good work ethic.
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