I feel bad when I assert myself

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When someone is messing with me, and I say something about it. Anyone else with this problem? And have you found anything that helps?

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Why would you say something about it ? you have feet, walk away

Take yourself away from the situation.

you owe nobody no explanation

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Sometimes establishing boundaries by being assertive is a good thing.

And @anon54988740 I feel the same way

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Thanks for letting me know your thoughts @chronological @Pikasaur

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Yeah, but doesn’t it feel at least a little good that you stuck up for yourself?

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I think it’s ok to assertively say something so long as it’s not aggressive because aggression just makes it worse. If it keeps happening with the same person, I would start ignoring that person altogether

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Thanks @77nick77 @LilyoftheValley

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I don’t feel bad when I’m assertive, but it can be uncomfortable. Especially if it’s with someone who already knows you, for them it is outside the norm of what they expect from you

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Thanks @Cragger .

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I was the same way. then one day I got sick of it and unfriended a lot of people in real life because I didn’t feel I was being treated properly. I now only associate with people that treat me properly. It’s hard to take that first step to put yourself first but it gets easier the more you do it, you’ll respect yourself more and more for doing it, then it becomes second nature.

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I have a hard time setting boundaries

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Yeah, I was just punching out for lunch a few minutes ago and people were waiting on me and I made mistake and the biker dude said “Somethings wrong with Nick.”
It wasn’t a serious put down but the rest of the crew is standing there and I said, “ There’s something wrong with a lot of people.” Everybody froze and it wiped the smile off a couple people.

No one I work with are exactly poster boys for mental health.

That felt good.

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What do you work at Nick? Impressive you can hold down a job

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I’ve been a janitor with my company for seven years. The time has just flown by…

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Good for you, man. Yes the years do fly by don’t they

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People will respect you for being genuine, if they are a long-term friend they want to be around you despite any flaws that u feel u have. I am trying to assert myself better as well, and I used to be unable to say no to people…I dont remember being that person as much because I have changed. however being alone isnt always easy…

Im an open book all the time. I think its better to be an open book, and my book is Jesus Christ is lord and savior.

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Just be yourself

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Yes sometimes in the past I’d feel really bad if I was being assertive due to paranoia?

But now it has improved.

Sometimes I just can’t be bothered to be assertive because I feel it’s not worth it

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Thanks for responding. @Headspark @Twialine @77nick77 @Cragger @anon71432064 @anon83141956

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You’re welcome Blue65

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