How do you cope? On the forum I have seen older users 50+ who still seem to have a lot of vitality left and I’m impressed (i have just turned 53 years old)
The banality of appreciating the small things in life, a ray of sunshine, a good movie, friends and family etc. is true, and to a certain extent I can do that, but I still feel a continuing loss.
Perhaps it’s a late midlife crisis and I will get over it.
I’m 62 and still functioning. My main problems are arthritis in my left hip and COPD from 35 of smoking cigarettes.
I’m not sure what exactly you mean by vitality. But I feel my age , that’s for sure! I’m 52.
The thing is, when you’re younger, you equate happiness with excitement. And when you get older you equate happiness with peace and quiet.
I hope you feel better. Are there things you miss or feel like you can’t do anymore?
What do you feel you are struggling with?
@everhopeful I agree. Im 44 and been through my teens, 20s 30s and I can’t and don’t want that anymore. I am happier and confident in myself. I see others in their 50s who seem happy and look forward to that vs. people chasing their youth.
I’m 49 and I’m making plans to start the next – and hopefully most successful – chapter of my life. I won’t stop until I’m dead. There will be no loss of vitality here.
The depression gets me, not the age.
Not when you consider someone like Ridley Scott, for example, is 84 and still making films. There’s tons of examples of people like him. That inspires me.
I’m not sure how, but I do think you could benefit from therapy. Be picky about who you choose to be your therapist. It’s ok if you meet one and don’t go back because you didn’t click. Keep looking until you find one you’re comfortable with
@everhopeful … yeah, that a bit unclear, i think by vitality i mean desire and hope to achieve something, a reason to struggle for some bigger purpose in life. I have just received disability because i couldn’t work anymore, but not i need to accept it. Loss of work ability is not as easy as i thought.
@Kxev Yeah, i feel okay, thanks, i had covid but it only lasted for 4 days, im fine physical, but need to accept the small pleasures in life better than i do now.
@Pandy great to hear, yes, even we got a MI don’t mean the end of a worthful life
@Pandy Life has always been a struggle and will be with MI/SZ but its not age for me.
I can hardly stand up. Have to use a cane sometimes. Haven’t been walking enough.
I have a nap and set an alarm on Alexa to wake me up in 45 min. Keeps me going for another few hours. Naps are wonderful.
I live in an inner city apartment block with a university close by and so we get many students renting. I never used to really notice music playing in other flats but the past few years it has started to wind me up. I do appreciate peace and quiet more and students shouting in the street and parties jar with me now. They are young and should have a good time but it’s hard not to hate on them. It’s time for me to move to quieter suburb where the old are at rest😀
I think the most important thing is to treat life and age correctly.
I think everything is fine
I’m in my mid-50’s and feel the aches and pains of bad joints. But, my vitality is about the same as it was in my 40’s. I putter around doing odd jobs. I am happier now than before. I made so many mistakes while I was younger due to my illness. My illness now is stabilized due to my compliance. I have to take care of my mother now since she is debilitated and feeble. I have to remain strong for a while for her and for myself. I think age is what you make of it. But, as we age our physical limitations do catch up with us.
Sounds good. I have just made an appointment with a social worker about getting a sheltered job. I think i need to work. I need that some one needs my help.
I don’t think age just is what you make of it, for some of us it’s harder to age, your symptoms can worsen without any other reason that the progress of your illness.
Its great that you are able to help your mom, inspiring, i want to help my old stepmother this summer with the garden. Last summer i didnt help her as much as i should have done.
Sounds like you’re taking the right steps for your own recovery. I understand, some people’s sz or sza gets worse with age. I find this heartbreaking to hear. For me though, age has been good since my illness has mellowed out a bit, and I have become more responsible.
I’m 24 and I feel like I’ve already aged poorly because of this illness. I guess I’m only talking about physical appearance. But it still sucks, oh well I need to get overmyself. But I’m always tired as well. So there’s that.
Thanks, its great to hear that you are still able to live a meaningful life and capable to help others - despite having this MI.
