Have my appointment coming up in a few days, and I’m absolutely dreading going to her.
I always leave her office feeling worse off than I came in, and I’m often glad when it’s over. There’s no compassion.
I feel she only attempts to minimize my symptoms and disregards my suffering.
I feel like I’m her customer, not her patient. That she doesn’t have an Idea of how to handle me.
I’ve lost confidence and need to go somewhere else I think.
So my questions are this.
How should a Pdoc feel to you?
How do you feel with yours?
How is it best to go about switching if you’re unhappy?
I would contact my insurance company to get a list of providers,
Then start doing some research on them.
I hope you find someone you like soon.
I think you should trust your pdoc and feel like you’re working cooperatively.
I always feel like that when I go see mine.
He always asks if I’m happy with treatment or have feelings about changing it.
That’s the way it should be.
My pdoc likes to yell at me but she listens and reacts to my symptoms. Tbh her nagging keeps me in line, and medicated
I don’t trust her abilities with with someone like us. And maybe that’s a big part of it.
You know she once told me “you aren’t like other schizophrenic patients I have”
That left me with questions…that’s what I should do, write out a questionnaire for her.
If your docs style works for you, that’s great if it helps you.
I had to laugh at that one. LOL.
My last pdoc, who retired two years ago, was absolutely wonderful. And he was highly respected in his field. I became spoiled with him. He understood me and my symptoms like no one before him ever had. And he put me in remission like he said he would. His successor is just as good. And extremely nice and understanding. I am spoiled with him too.
How did you find them? Or was it pure luck?
What kind of things would you put on the questionnaire?
Just a cursory list would be.
What’s my treatment plan?
What are your medication plans?
Why use laissez faire as an approach?
Why does she think therapy will help me more than increasing my medication?
Why does she hide Talking about my diagnosis? What even is my diagnosis?
Why send me for a second opinion when she doesn’t even want to see the reports?
Solid.
Those are all things you should know and should be openly discussed.
Sorry you’re struggling so much with your pdoc.
Yeah it’s important to me that my doctors show compassion.
You have the right to feel this way.
They’re all things she won’t talk about.
Her typical questions in a meeting are “Hows therapy?” “Are you sleeping?” “How’s your diet?” “Any side effects?”
Hardly anything about how My symptoms are.
I once told her about some of the darker voices telling me to hurt myself, and her response was “Hrm” looked like a deer in headlights and proceeded “You don’t present like my other schizophrenic patients”
I found that response…Lacking
Sounds like she’s just inexperienced.
Maybe you should put your efforts into finding someone new.
My pdoc sucks. I view her as basically a med dispensary. She keeps wanting to change my meds, which I don’t get, because I’ve been fine for so long. But in the end, I tell her I don’t want to switch and she respects that.
Voice free 3 or so years, right Ninja? I’d call myself pretty stable on my meds and not want to touch them either.
I know it sounds crazy but I am real.
I fired 2 pdocs cause they were just pill shovers and did some pretty horrible ■■■■ for people knowing about how MI works. Those were 2 different health systems. Now the one I got rid of in my current health system, my therapist is same company, which is also my insurance company Mercy so my therapist filed complaints against that last pdoc. We finally got her outsted and she said that woman didn’t treat just me like I couldn’t make my own decisions. But my therapist had me added as top of list when a new prescriber was hired, who I see now Jessica. She came from the psych ward at the hospital 3rd shift and decided she’s do better at preventive care, if that makes sense, not sure if that came out how I wanted. She wanted to basic keep people out of the hospital, and she and I hit it off really well. Cause she read my whole case before I came in first appointment, but I brought John because of last pdoc.
But she saw some really disrespectful notes in file from previous pdoc before my file was locked from her access, and told me what all was written. So that kinda earned my respect, then she asked how I felt I was going with no AP since March, I told her how I have voices still and hallucinate, but never had an AP ever help with those. So she talked to John, not like talking past me, but what he sees, he gave his input. She agreed as long as wasn’t worse, that we’d roll with it. But she is waiting for Mercy to get the info for doctors about the FDA approved new med, and once she’s able to RX it we’re trying it.
I’m one of those people, you get 1 shot at first appt, don’t treat me like I’m inhuman and we’ll be ok. Those 2 i got rid of, should not be in the field, but when areas have too much need, bottom of barrel becomes standard.
Good luck with new pdoc appointment, get your questions ready, but your gut feelings are usually best for you. Stand your ground on what matters to you, if no med changes, you stay with it. If you want a change, get it, etc.