Life is random and coincidental very often. You will not really be able to figure out these problems a 100%. Sometimes people are actually reacting to something your doing. When Dr. Phil isn’t busy embarrassing himself, he’s a pretty shrewd guy. i remember him saying that each thought in our head has a physiological reaction. So that kind of answers your problem a little bit. If you are thinking mean or negative thoughts, that’s going to cause your body to be tense and hostile and that will be the “vibe” people are picking up on and reacting on.
But not EVERYBODY is reacting to you. It just seems like they are. But they really aren’t
I’ve been on these forums for about six years. I’ve seen the many debates on what people coughing around us means. Is it a warning, is it to deliberately makes us mad? Well, the fact is that it is not a black & white thing. Same with us assuming everybody is laughing at us. Sometimes it’s true, sometimes it isn’t.
My latest delusion was that people were yawning to make me mad. I ran with that for month or so. Then I thought I figured out that all the yawning had nothing to do with me. Well, the correct answer is somewhere in the middle. Some people do yawn when I’m around and it can be deliberate. But I either yawn back( it is not crazy or wrong or inappropriate. It really bugs the people and is allowed most of the time).
I don"t care most of the time. I’ve done plenty of cool stuff in my life and taken big chances. So I love to prove people wrong. Sometimes people do play games and do weird stuff. But that usually doesn’t happen in public when you’re on a bus or something, or walking alone on the sidewalk minding your own business.
But bars and crack houses play that game. And there are people out there who if you make them mad or do some innocent mistake, they will take out their lifetime of anger at all the problems they have in their life, and all the time they were treated in their miserable life, and take all this frustration and anger out on you. Most people are not like that though. I hope I’m not being too negative. But 99% of the time, if someone drops something, you did not cause it. Coughing is usually done by people unconsciously and they do not to it to bug anyone.
Freud said, Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar".
People laugh, cough, drop things frequently without malice intended. It is usually innocent. I conquered these problems by looking at people eyes. You can tell if they are innocent about laughing. You don’t have to stare and if you can just take a quick glance to look at their eyes, no
body minds and it’s a huge relief.
Anyways, I hope you got something out of this.