I want to remain childfree for many reasons. Mainly i dont think i could cope with having a child and the fact that there is a high chance they could develop schizophrenia. I have toyed with the idea in the past but i always go back to the same conclusion.
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I am still not sure.
I adore and love children…
but the same reasons like yours - are stopping me.
I am stable for five years, my pdoc has a hope that I will never be pscyhotic again. (if I stay on meds) or maybe even will try to quit meds someday.
But overall… it’s really highly genetic. Also, what if I will have postpartum depression and then pscyhosis will come back again?
So, I fear having kids… but my childhood dream was to have 3 kids as a grown adult.
Now, I believe best would be lessen the number of possible kids. Maybe 1-2. But yeah, again, I am not sure what to do.
I don’t want to be the unstable mother. Or psychotic overall. I hope in several years I will know the answer.
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i don t want kids with my wife because my disease seems to be genetic( major depression ,sz affective )
I had my tubes tied when I was 22 and still childless. I had the most permanent technique done of the three choices presented.
I don’t hate kids. But I have never wanted to be a mother.
Except to cats. A few cats over the years. 
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Yes it’s hard enough looking after myself
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I Hope it is okay that I write in this topic eventhough I’m not child free. I had my son when I was 25 and then got sick with the schizophrenia. If I had been sick before, I would have been child free, because I don’t want to risk passing the schizophrenia on to a child. My son is 13 now, and luckily he is still well. But the risk of him developing schizophrenia is one of my biggest fears and concerns.
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I’m 53 now, and child free. I have enough trouble looking after myself. Not having children was the best decision I made.
I would have been a terrible father. I could also have passed on schizophrenia to my children.
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I am child free.
Sort of.
I had a baby when I was 28.
We made friends with a great couple looking adopt and they adopted him from birth.
We talk every few weeks and see each other at least annually.
Sometimes more.
But I don’t raise children mostly because I like my life.
I enjoy waking up and not having to worry about anyone else.
When you have children, you give them a very part of your soul.
I feel that loss,
But it’s not the burden it is for most parents.
I’m grateful for that.
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Got a 22 year old i dont see. Thought about more, but im too old now. And hardly can find a stable woman anyway.
If the relationship was right, i would take on another womans kids tho, as a step dad. But even that for me, is unlikely.
Ive always had a guilt anyway, that my genes gave my little girl Autism. No facts to back it up.
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Not me. It keeps coming home from university on the weekends to mooch food and raid my wallet.
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i can take care of myself in a survival sense, financially not so much. once i have some type of income things will be better, but i am far from feeling comfortable enough to want a child or even want to date anybody
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I am a child. One is enough.
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Thats part of being a parent lol. Wish my little one would ask me for money lol. - I would feel wanted 
Obviously i would spoil her rotten.
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I am child free but not by choice…I almost had a child when I was in my twenties but the woman didn’t want the child…was a step dad for a while…he hated me…oh well…better off child free.
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How old is your daughter now Naarai?
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Shes 22, on March 19th next year. Bless her little heart. This Daddy misses her terribly
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Oh I’m so sorry that you’re not in contact. That is very hard. I got divorced and lost custody when my son was 5.
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It’s complicated
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