Im debating if i want to have children in the future and im just not sure. And if you are child free what are your reasons and are you child free by choice?
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I’m married for almost 8 years. No children. I had my fallopian tubes removed in 2017 (sterilization).
I am not capable of raising a child, due to my mental illness. Also, I do not want to pass on my many health problems, both mental and physical.
Maybe someday in the future, I will be able to care for a child. If so, we would probably adopt an older child. Our plan was always adoption, anyway, because we both think it’s important to give orphaned kids a home. We were always against biological children, even before my mental illness diagnosis.
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I am childless and partnerless.
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I never wanted children. It turned out to be the best decision I ever made. I wouldn’t be able to raise them.
I have nieces and I’m worn out after spending about 2 hours of them.
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I guess so that was what i was thinking about also. And i dont think i can come off my medication so i would worry about the side affects of my medication on my future children. I worry if they wil lbe normal id only want the best if i was to have a child because it sould be unfair to have anything but.
I do feel sad though because i feel like i would be missing out. I dont know how to feel anymore.
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I’m child free by choice.
I actually birthed a child and he was adopted by friends.
We’re still super close, but I didn’t raise him.
My reasons are simple.
I don’t want kids.
They’re expensive,
Messy,
And you’re literally responsible for someone else’s soul.
It’s horrible.
I’m a selfish person.
I want all my time.
I love that I had my kid.
Pregnancy was beautiful and an experience I’ll always cherish.
Making a family for our friends is the gift that keeps giving, I love it.
But not for me.
My husband and I are happy by ourselves.
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Same here but i really feel as though id miss out. This feeling makes me feel depressed. I just dont know anymore
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Also, if you’re debating on whether or not you want kids,
You probably don’t want kids.
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Awww im pleased for you that you made that choice id like to have done that too. Be a surrogate. Bur due to being on medication i dont think i ll be able to. I contemplate my worth all the time and wonder if i should even be alive. I feel like if i dont have kids no one will want me im so broken and i really dont know how to heal.
Are you happy? Do you enjoy it?
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Well I have higher priorities in my life rn like study and work. I don’t mind not having a partner or a child, now I have more time to have fun with my friends but I wish I could work and make money so I can spend on my hobbies like gaming PC etc
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I won’t have kids. I thought I wanted them, and I do think I’d make a good mom, but ultimately, I just don’t need another struggle.
Also, I’m very against poor people having litters, and I’m poor.
If I can’t provide for the child, I’m not going to have it just to have it. So unless I fall into money, which isn’t going to happen, it’s off the table for me.
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Samr here. I dont think i will ever make enough money to support a child and id likely have to do it alone because i just dont feel good enough to have a stable relationship. Id want the best for my children and if i cant give them that im not sure i should even have them.
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Too many problems with schizophrenia
Don’t really care that I’m childless never met the right guy not fussed
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I guess you are right. I need to get my proiritys in check.
been 19 years in a steady relationship, but no kids. people ask us often why.
I would be a bad mother. our relatives have kids and live nearby, so we take care of them and play with them and that’s enough.
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My ex wife and I were trying to have kids for a while during our marriage.
Turns out she was medically incapable of getting pregnant.
All I can say is that this turned out to be a blessing.
We ended up divorcing because she turned out to be a horrible human being.
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I have no children. I’m 44, it’s too late for me. I can’t afford all that stuff that comes along with it.
Not to mention it’s very hard to find a woman willing to date, marry and have children with a man with schizophrenia. Women don’t seem to have this problem.
I’ve come to be okay with the fact I’ll probably grow old and die alone childless.
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I think if you have a good support system in place family, friends and your mental health is getting better not worse then you should keep it as a viable option.
I didn’t have any because it was never the right time and i have always had big problems i couldn’t overcome for want of trying. Doesn’t mean were all the same thou. If you want one and time is right then you should have what you want hun.
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i am 39 and have no children. i tried once with an ex but we were on the rocks and off the rails and broke up. i dont even know if she really went off birth control.
i dont know. i told my other ex thst i wanted children last year. she wants two but i think id be better off free of them. i was around for raising my young niece but now shes 16 and working. those were good years.
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