It’s been many years since my divorce.
I was married for 7 years to a very mentally ill and abusive woman.
I was pretty unstable myself back then.
Any divorcees out there?
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Yes, me. I was married for 7 years. I have been divorced for 9 years.
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I married a guy cos I thought God told me to marry him. (Does that fall under delusional thinking?) he was abusive. I divorced him.
Then my daughter’s father raped me and I got pregnant. Thought it was right to marry the father of my baby. He wouldn’t work and was doing illegal things so I divorced him.
My 3rd husband moved himself into my house and wouldn’t leave. I was fearful for my daughter’s sake that she would see two unmarried people living together and cos he wouldn’t leave to protect her I married him. He divorced me. I wasn’t really nice to him cos I didn’t want to marry him in the first place. I felt like he was mooching off me. I was the breadwinner in the house
I mean wasn’t all out evil. Example He’s big into food so I’d cook him good food like bacon wrapped cream cheese filled banana peppers.
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I’ve been divorced for 2 years now i think.
Also was in an abusive marriage and i was very ill at the time.
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I lasted 2 years and my ex was crazier than myself. Never doing that again.
Got divorced probably within 5 years or so it took a while but finally got it done. It’s been at least 15 years and back then my family helped me out doing that continent shift so I came home and decided to help them.
It’s hard to date when your on a pension ( great mentally not having to work ) but most of my money goes to the family as I think that is right as it was so expensive back in the day. Oh well.
Remember Neil Young…divorcee …What were those lyrics.???
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I’m together with my current husband for almost 22 years, but we started dating before my divorce from my first husband was final.
I never should have married the first one. I was very mentally ill then as well. Definitely should have left before 10 years.
You have to wait six months to file in Virginia (one year if there’s kids). I was legally separated for a little more than four months when i first flew to Calgary to meet Chris.
So yeah, this is my second - and last - marriage. You know about all the life or death scares we’ve had in the last 18 months.
I have actually considered a monastic vocation once I’ve been alone for awhile, but my mental illness would prolly disqualify me from that anyway. It’s something I considered starting back in 6th grade and has always been on my radar.
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Divorced since last January after a thirteen year marriage. Ex wife had some borderline personality issues from being abused as a child and started treating me differently when I told her I thought I was on the autism spectrum. She started abusing medical cannabis and benzos after surgeries and became even more paranoid and vindictive and thought people were breaking into the apartment (she had the locks changed 5 times) She turned on me and her family and accused me of spying on her. Pretty sure she stopped taking Prolixin during this time too. My therapists said I should disconnect from her entirely. I heard that she tried to get in the hospital but they wouldn’t take her because there weren’t enough beds and she didn’t seem a danger to herself or others. She ended up moving out of town.
A big red flag during our marriage was that she started avoiding seeing my friends and family when they would come to town to visit.
I met someone new this summer that I really like a lot. She has a full time job and a lot of friends and a pretty solid family. She is very kind to me and not conceited at all.
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Yup, Ive been divorced for 17 years she was a ■■■■■!
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Hey @Wave, I was married for almost 7 years to a very mentally ill and very abusive man.
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I was also pretty unstable myself at the time.
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{Possible T.W.}
Most of the time when I try to post I get flagged for trigger warns.
Well, here goes nothing. I’ve been divorced for 20+ years from a very bad marriage. I am now happily married to the most wonderful human being and woman now. My EX-Wife was very abusive and insulting towards me and she at the time is 10 years older than me and from Former French Guyana in South America {Where all those poor people got talking into mass suicide. Jim Jones, I think he was called back then.} I honestly believe she was just as bad as just mentioned.
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And I don’t know about you, but, never again marriage.
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Me too @SkinnyMe
… Me too
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Forget the monastic vocation. I tried that. They wouldn’t take me. I was too old. You probably are too.
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But I want to add, that I was very happily married. I don’t regret a single day of my marriage and had I not had the post partum depression and the psychosis, I would probably still have been with my ex husband. He is still a very close friend and a good father for my son. Im very grateful that my son can live with him.
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I was previously married for two + years. It was an abusive marriage. I’ve been divorced for 22 years and remarried for 20.
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Been divorced from the sperm donor for 20 yrs
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I’ve been divorced and single for 37 years now.
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I am divorced. Was married for 8 years. 
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